My husband cheated, says he has stopped, but won't give me the password to his e-mail, (the one he used to talk to the other women)
2007-01-09 10:51:59 · 18 answers · asked by BEINGHURT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first off, he's still hiding something. the best way to start getting over this is to get rid of the problem--your lying cheating husband.
good luck.
2007-01-09 10:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you are messing around with other people's emails (even your husband's) you should be prepared to face the consequences. Sometimes it is better if you don't know. But now that you do...the best way to get over it is to cheat on him, which I don't suggest you do. He is not obligated to give you his password - it is his personal email - have some respect for his privacy. And why do you need his password - as a proof that he is not cheating anymore? Don't you trust him? If you are financially stable - leave him and move on. Otherwise, have an open and honest conversation with him and try to find out why he is cheating on you. Good luck!
2007-01-09 11:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by vicktop 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will speak from experience when I tell you that I have been married for 7 years and my husband has cheated every year of those 7. It was not until this year that I stopped trying to handle it on my own. I came to the realization that no matter how many times he cheated I knew I wasn't going to leave so, I turned the worries and fears over to Jesus and I have been praying every since. We are now at the point that he is praying to, and he is truly trying to change. So if you know in your heart that you are not willing to give up on him just yet, start praying and asking God to give you strength and to keep you protected from all the things that can happen from his cheating.
I don't know if you believe in God, and if you do I don't know if you are a praying person, but if you are, a word of advice is wait until that man is sleep and walk your bedroom floor praying and talking to God about it!
2007-01-09 11:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to emotionally get over a cheating husband.?
2014-12-14 18:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm ... it does seem like he must still having something to hide but then again think of it this way. If he does give you his password he will just open up another account under another name. If he is really slick, he will use a totally different e-mail provider (i.e. hotmail vs. yahoo). If he has cheated and is really remorseful for doing it then he should be willing to do whatever he has to win your trust back. If it were me, I would need to make sure that he is cutting all ties to this woman. If he can't do it and if you still find yourself feeling insecure, then you may need counseling and have to cut him loose eventually if he isn't willing to cooperate. Pray and ask the Lord for guidance.
2007-01-09 10:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't easily get over this type of situation. You either learn to forgive him for what he's done and move on with both your lives or just get a divorce and find a better man.
Trust is not an easy thing to gain once you lose it. It takes time.
2007-01-09 11:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. My boyfriend cheated on me the same way. He knew the girl in town and talked to her mostly through email. It sounds bad, but if i never checked his email when he wasn't around, i would have never known.
Now and then i get a little suspicious, though i know he's doing nothing. What i have done in the past is asked him to show me his email. Don't ask for his PW, cause its still his own private mail, but let him sign in and sit next to him. Browse the names and if nothings there say "okay, thanks" and leave
Don't ask and then let time go by. If something suspicious is in his email he'll go and deleted before he decides to show you.
It sounds bad snooping on the significant other, but not when their doing even worse.
2007-01-09 11:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kristen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife once said "the easiest way to get over a man is to get under another".
Knowledge is power. If it was me, I'd purchase a keylogger program and install it on his computer. Then, password or not, you'll have access to every word he types... every e-mail... every instant message...every website he visits...
Then you'll know. As to the choice you make then... well, you will choose between confidence and fear; strength or weakness. Whatever "choice" you think you have to make, it will fall into one of these two categories. You will act out of confidence and strength, or insecurity and fear. Choose wisely.
PS. Subconciously or not, he wanted you to find out he was cheating. That's why he was found out. Add that truth to your knowledge base.
2007-01-09 11:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by antirion 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he wont give u the password that prolly means that he still has somn to hide he may not be cheating tho maybe there is just more to the story than he has told you
2007-01-09 10:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by babyboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one :( If he said he stopped then he should have no problem giving you the password. He should also want to help this relationship out and make it work. Is he doing this? Hopefully you guys can go to couseling together.. if not.. it really helped me to go by myself. Good Luck
2007-01-09 10:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋