I've been married for several years. For fun, I tried setting up a threesome, my wife agreed to see what would happen. Well, after getting the other girl to start kissing me, my wife told me to stop making out with her and I didn't for about ten to fifteen minutes. Now a half a year later, my wife started playing on the Internet more and more, but I just put it off as her finding a new toy. She told me she had a developed a good friendship with this guy in a far away state, and I just said good, not wanting to make her feel as if I was controlling. I started to get suspicious when she began clicking out of the program as I would walk into the room, so I checked it after she left one day. After getting into her e-mail I found where she had sent several pics of herself in erotic positions with only her bottoms on. I am obviously outraged that she would betray my trust, but I'm not sure how to continue.
2007-01-09 10:46:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, you should have never tried the threesome. I don't think that's a good idea at all, especially in a marriage. She obviously got jealous (I would) but I can't say that pushed her to do what she did. She is wrong for sending nude pictures over the internet. But in all honesty, you should have stopped her when she first told you about it and explained that you weren't okay with her talking to this man. When you just said "good" that probably made her feel that it was okay.
You and your wife need to sit down and talk and get your marriage back on track. It's not okay under any circumstance to get involved with someone else. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 10:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the threesome and the pics are related.
She is doing something behind your back. Get a key logger and slap it onto your computer. I would also look to see if you can find one that captures the screen image every minute or so.
I would put one of the pics as the screen saver and just wait until she turns on the computer. If she asks you what it is just say, "I have others if you don't like that one."
Don't talk just listen and take notes. Then repeat back to her everything she just said so there is not misunderstandings.
When you get all the facts you should have an idea what to do next.
2007-01-09 11:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two unrelated events here: your threesome, and her sending pictures. In both events, one of you betrayed the trust of the other. In the threesome, you should have put your wife before yourself and the other girl. You didn't. You screwed up and that probably hurt her pretty bad. But you didn't lie to her, you were open and honest (as far as that goes.) In this more recent case, she has gone behind your back and lied to you.
Confront her with the lie, have her break it off, and then you also write the guy and tell him to back off your wife. Ask if there are any others. (There probably aren't, the way you've described it.) Then put it all behind you and go forward. Make an effort never to betray each other's trust again.
2007-01-10 01:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 12:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't stop when you were told. you were the one who initiated the threesome and you broke your wifes trust. once trust is broken it takes a lot to get it back. at least she didn't bring the man into the house like you did the third.
also ask yourself what you are doing that you are neglecting her and her needs.
if you weren't negelecting her she wouldn't be on the computer.
there is always more to wats going on then what is being said.
you talk about her betraying her trust!!!!! you broke her trust several months ago. she may never trust you again.
seek out counseling and thank your lucky stars she didn't dump you months ago.
2007-01-09 16:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your so in there 8 D
2016-05-23 00:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think the threesome had a BIG part in all this ..what are you thinking you are to want to be with your wife and only your wife and when she tell you to stop HELLO that means STOP not go on .. its called respect and i don't think you or your wife have that any more for one another that probably went out the door when the other girl got in your bed ............ as for your wife well that's just wrong you need to talk to her and you 2 have alot to talk about i would have to say ...........good luck to you
2007-01-09 11:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when she told you to stop kissing that girl and you didn't, you betrayed the trust she put in you to try a threesome. Not only did you not stop, you continued for a long, long, long time. Yep! You really brought that one on yourself.
2007-01-09 10:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by elliott 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok ive done this before. Attention. You are severely neglecting her. She has very low self esteem, and is looking for that validation that shes "still got it". They are telling her shes beautiful. They are telling her what she deep down wants to hear from you. Its a vicious cycle....you push her away...she turns to the internet man whores....that in turn makes you grow even farther apart.
You gotta step up to the plate and treat her like you did when you were dating....flowers cards, compliments, attention.....you will see her drop the internet like a brick......shell be totally into you again and the spark will be back again.....
Trust me my husband did it and I DO not go near messenger anymore......Although in a wierd way he liked the effects of my pic swapping and camming......My self esteem skyrocketed!!! I didnt feel like a boring ole housewife and mother.....
2007-01-09 14:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by sifford844 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is having an online affair with this guy. Check her e-mails to see if they're chatting by e-mail when she's away at work. Then ask her about it. If she doesn't look you in the eyes when you ask her a question that means she's lying in which case divorce her.
2007-01-09 11:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋