I left him because he was very controlling but now i think he can change. The problem is that he wont tell his female friend that we are back together. I have even caught them Instant Messaging and texting eachother. He says they are just friends but why wouldnt he tell her that we are back together?
2007-01-09 10:46:29 · 5 answers · asked by tanya k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he don`t want to let go of her .and tell her that you are back together. so if you & him don`t work out again.he can alway go back to her. that why he don`t let go of her. it haveing cake, eating it to.
2007-01-09 10:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to have to give up all contact with this person if he is fully committed to making the marriage work. There's just no way it's going to work with a 3rd party involved. Tell him there is no room for another person in your relationship - even a friend. You may have to put your foot down to the point of leaving. That's what I had to do.
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2007-01-09 11:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't telling this girl then there is something more going on. Maybe he feels that he wants to keep this chick in the wings just in case it doesn't work out between you two. Tell him that he is acting like a cheating man, and he is looking at loosing you for good.
2007-01-09 10:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by turners_pics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he will not tell his female friend that you two are back together then why did you go back with him? he wants to have his cake and eat it to. you say that he can change....well let me tell you...nobody can change anyone. only the person can change themselves. yes he probably will tell you everything that you want to hear and get you to believe it just so that he can get his control back. honey do yourself a favor and listen to this....this could turn into a domesitc abuse situation IF YOU DO NOT LEAVE HIM NOW. this is red flag to me. don't do it. just pack your bags and leave and never go back to him. he is playing you and that other woman.
2007-01-09 11:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, no, no...He can't change. He won't change. Can't you see?
He is still in control of making you unhappy.
2007-01-13 10:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋