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Over this past summer i became close with friends with this girl i met 1/2 through my sopomore year. We spent alot of time together..shopping, concerts parties....you name it. Lately shes been acting VERY distant and when i talked to her about it she said she needed a break from me...because appraently were always together. So over the holiday break...we took our break and she decided she didnt want to be a clse friend anymore. It completely tore me apart and it still is...ive been having so much trouble trying to sleep lately....anyway. She went back being close buddies with this other girl that she used to be friends with...but they had a fallout, so they didnt talk for close to a year and now they are. i have NO problem with this otehr girl..i consider my friend too. I hope someday we will be friends again..becasue quite litterally i would NOT be the person i am today withour her. I'd just like to know how to make myself get over myself and live with the fact that our friendship isnt going to reappear over night. I keep looking at old pictures and reading old letters she wrote me on her bored days at work...and i get sader and sader....So any advice what you would do or what i could do would be alot of help. thanks for reading, and sorry for the typos.

2007-01-09 10:45:50 · 12 answers · asked by xemoxheartx 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

12 answers

First off, I'm sorry for your pain. I've been there, at your age and even as an adult. It doesn't hurt any less when your an adult, I think I got over it quicker, cause I have more to keep me busy. If I were you, I'd be available when you want to be. I wouldn't break any plans, but if either of them want to hang out, go along. I also would realize that there are different personalities, and what's right for you might not be for her. I have always needed few friends, and the one I was friends with, always needed alot. We hardly talk anymore, which if someone would have told me that 3 years ago, I would have told them they were crazy. I'm OK , though I can't help but wonder if I was being 'used' for child care, etc over the years. I guess one thing to do is try and stay busy. Try and develop other friendships according to what you enjoy. That way you have something in common. Realize that people are different, and some aren't as loyal as others. Also, I'd like to add that the years you are in are the shortest span of your life. Like 0-13 / 13-19 / 19-90 You have alot to look forward to!

2007-01-09 10:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by nickname 5 · 0 0

I don't know how much time you've already given her...but I think you should express your feelings to her...maybe write her a sincere letter and tell her what's going on..and what you are feeling right now..and ask her what's going on and what's the real reason behind all this......But if she doesn't care ..then she's not the friend that maybe you thought she was ...and you should just let it go.. time will heal everything...but personally I think that maybe she used you because she wasn't friend with the other girl for a period..and she needed someone during that period and now that she's back being friend with her..she's done with you..if that's really the case..then you really need to move on and you will find a really good Friend sooner or later..just be patient

2007-01-09 11:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Hello Kitty 2 · 0 0

This is quite scary, because I have only just got to terms with the exact same problem myself. Not of warning: DO NOT listen to sad music whilst remeniscing about your friend. This is really a bad idea.
It has taken me six months to come to terms with not being Close to me best friend (whom i shall call L) but the only way I coped was to remember these things:
1. What comes around, goes around. Even though now it seems like we will never ever be friends again, chances are in a few years she'll change her mind
2. Even though it was a really, really hard decision to make, I knew that if I was really her friend then the only way I could show it was to let her go to make her happy even though it completely tore me up.
But I didn't think anyone else was going through this, feel free to email me if you want to talk about it.

2007-01-09 10:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by without.question 3 · 1 0

Don't worry about the typos, we all have them. As far as your friend, I would just try to call her or meet her somewhere, and ask her what is going on. Why did she distant herself from you. Let her know that you miss her and you just want to understand. Let her know that you were there for her when she needed you, and you just want an honest answer. If she doesn't want to give you any explanation, then you tell her, OK, that is fine, but when you need me again, I might not be there for you. And just let it go for now. I have a feeling that will be her friend again, but just let her know that this manner of acting is not done to a true friend. I am sure one day she will come to her senses, but maybe you might be on another stage of your life. Good luck, and may God bless you for your beautiful soul.

2007-01-09 10:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 1 0

well first thing don't act so desparate, make new best friends, have fun with them, and i have to tell you the turth about this, you won't forget about her for a looonnnngggg time if ever. that's like trying to erase sharpie markings.but you will make friends that will stay best friends with you and will help you thorugh the broken friendship... they are better friends than her ( sorry if i'm sounding mean, i just don't know her or the situation...) since they will stand by you and see everything happens for a reason, and soon you will move on too. it'll ALL be ok. :]

2007-01-09 10:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by mackenzie 2 · 1 0

I somewhat understand what you're going through. I had a friend that left me for another girl because I pissed that other girl off. Oh well. Such is life. Now, my 'best friend' seems to be acting desperate because I'm moving. I'm getting to the point where I don't really care anymore. I'm who I am today and I like it, so who needs 'best friends'? If you like how you are now thanks to her (and good for her on helping you get there) then who needs her? If she doesn't 'have time' for you, then why bother? You always have your other friends, right? :o) Good luck Zig-Zag. (that nickname really fits your personality and lifestyle. lol) ;~P

2007-01-10 03:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by dancing_with_patience 3 · 0 0

The simplest tune approximately this designated concern could be "Hotel California" via The Eagles. Still a first-rate album--I have an historical vinyl reproduction that I acquired for my 14th birthday in (choke) 1977.

2016-09-03 19:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Send this Blog to her. Sometimes the answer to things is right in front of you:)

2007-01-09 10:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by cora m 2 · 1 0

make friends with those she hangout with, then have party when you are in the room first before she does, than she can't kick you out

2007-01-09 10:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0 0

i would get some new friends or if u dont think that u can do that, then tell her how u feel. hope all goes well.

2007-01-09 10:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by myeia_101 1 · 1 0

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