well i have been with this guy for about three months off and on i love him and have known him as a friend for two years. were really close but im a virigin and hes not i want to sleep with him and he says hes ready when i am . i love him and it feels so right but i just had to ask if u think its right??
2007-01-09 10:36:20 · 22 answers · asked by hunny_bunn101 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 15 and so is he i dont have doubt i just want to no if it seems morally wrong .
2007-01-09 10:48:18 · update #1
if you need to ask that question then you are not ready to have sex yet
2007-01-09 10:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by smurf_punky 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have sex just because you love someone. It doesn't sound like a serious relationship and you don't want to waste such a precious gift on someone you are not seriously committed to. I would wait till marriage if I could do it again. Call me old fashion but that is the way it should be not wasting such a personal thing with some guy you have a crush on for a short time. When you take the step of having sex I believe you put up with more in the relationship to make it work when you would normally end it because you deserve better.
2007-01-09 10:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep your virginity.
I'm 19 and recently lost my virginity to my fiance.
I hate to say this but I regret it.
You can use your virginity as a tool to ward off the guys that don't actually care about you and just want to get in your pants. Wait for the guy who will wait until YOU are ready. And think long and hard about whether or not you are actually ready before you do decide to have sex.
A guy will tell you anything you want to hear in hopes he'll have his way with you. He'll make you feel like a million bucks just to get what he wants out of you.
Trust me, innocence is a horrible thing to shed too early.
Things are much simpler when you're a virgin.
Good luck.
If you want to talk more about this, feel free to send me an email or IM.
2007-01-09 10:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Desiree 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
think about the pros and cons of sex:
i dont know your relationship, so this is what i can answer judging your age, and what you've said so far:
pro:
you get more experience
you get to ward off your curiosity
you'll prob get closer to him.
you can prob say to your friends:"i did it" and feel more of an adult.
con:
you are not an adult.
you might think you're getting closer to him, but he may not. he maybe be valuing you for your virginity.
your experience can also be for regret, like what that 19 year old said. you can never get your virginity back.
like how can you say you've done it in a proud way and feel adult, you will now also have to say "i've done it, and i'm regretting it"
once again, this is based on the info you've given me. but if you've weighted these, obviously the cons outweight the pros. and oh, curiosity killed the cat.
2007-01-11 14:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obvious your relationship its only been off and on for three months so probably when you loose it to him hes gonna leave you cause you gave it up to him and thats all he wannet besides your only 15 thats a young age to have sex....loose it to someone that is a virgin 2 and love in three months its not possible probably you dont even know what love means good luck think about it but if you do have sex your f.u.ck.en stupid and use protection
2007-01-09 13:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pr!sC!lL@♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Just because you love him now does not mean that you will still love him in a few years. If you give him the gift of your virginity than you won't have it when you fall head over heels for someone.
2007-01-09 18:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunnie, i know how it feels to be in your position.. Its not worth it, keep your virginity, i regret losing mine and i'll tell you what a lot of people learn after losing their virginity, that gift is special and guys will take that choice to take that gift from you and have no intention of ever being there forever and really at times it tears relationships and friendships, at that, apart.. you would be so much happier i garentee it, if you waited for that special guy, when your married & everything, and im not thinking of religion, but im thinking about how me and a lot of other people take it..
i know at first people are happy they lost their virginity but what if you and this guy dont work? are you going to be heart broken?? alot of females do get heartbroken and wish they would have waited.. so if he loves you, and you love him, you'll wait until you know for sure that its him.. that he's the one and that your the one for him, esp. if your relationship with eachother right now is off & on, i wouldnt take that chance..
be happy that you have that special gift to give to someone, and give it to the one that you know for sure is the one.. you'll be happier..
but if you do have sex with him, & things dont work out, just be careful and dont become like 'sex machine' after you & him dont work out if you dont that is..
good luck, and i hope you take my advice to wait..
save that gift..
2007-01-09 10:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Michila Noell 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
dont, trust me, sex is over hyped, yes its great but save it for someone special, your young, in another few months you will proberly not be dateing him (sorry but thats how it is at that age)
dont, if he is ready when your ready then he can wait, if he doesnt want to wait then he isnt worth it, wait untill the relationship is something speical
2007-01-09 11:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. Are you serious? You are 15, you don't know what love us!!!! You want to sleep with him. Tell me, you may "love him," but does he love you? He's not a virgin. Tell me, who did he sleep with? Did he get her pregnant? Did he leave her?
2007-01-10 14:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perfectly normal as long as he condomizes i know a girl that was preg. at 14 and had a baby at 15
2007-01-09 11:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by termite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 15 and you are not married...Wait till marriage...sex will be much much better when you do. It'll be worth the wait.
2007-01-09 10:52:57 · answer #11 · answered by followmyleader1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋