my husband and i fight alot he is on the computer 20 hours a day he dont work we are staying with his mom right now and he has no intent to move out we have 3 kids together and he wont spend time with them either
the only time he talks to the kids is when he yells at them or spanks them what should i do
2007-01-09 10:32:12 · 19 answers · asked by mrs_bitch 2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i forgot to add that my husband talks to alot of females on the computer and he refuses to sit down and talk to me and im his wife im very unhappy but i love him with all my heart
2007-01-09 10:42:45 · update #1
for the one who said i need to get a job hun i do have a job i work from 10pm to 7:30 am come home get my daughter off to school and then take care of the other 2 the only rest i get is when they nap
2007-01-09 10:48:22 · update #2
Well you know what sometimes it takes one just walking away for a while for the other to realize what they've really lost. So if you can't sit down and talk to him about how unhappy he's making you with the things he's doing then maybe you should show him how unhappy you are by walking out and then what he's taken for granted all this time may shed some light on that little playhouse he done built for his self. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 10:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am suprised you got on the computer to ask this question, where was he? In the bathroom? Anyhow, to answer your question, why would you want to live like this? Take the three kids and find your self and them a HOME. Tell your husband you are filing for divorce AND child support, so maybe he will open his eyes and realize that he has a problem. If he doesn't care, then do just that. If you stick around, you are just as guilty for putting up with him. I would say, get a job and get out because he is too dependent on others for taking care of him.
2007-01-09 18:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it sounds impossible, the best thing to do would be getting a job yourself. You will be setting a good example for your children, and you will gain a little self respect. You will be out in the world and self supporting. Find an apartment for you to move into with your children and start living again. Don't let him pull you down in the same quicksand he is in. Run Girl! Good Luck.I'm not advising you to divorce him. Only you can make that decision, but you might also try to encourage him to get a job when you do.Sometimes it's a monkey see monkey do world.
2007-01-09 18:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby needs a strong dose of reality!
It is not okay to live with mummy after the age of 18, & it is definetly not okay to burden mummy with his family. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? Sometimes it's worth a try to tell him your concerns & unhappiness with your living arrangements. As for spanking your children, I think he needs to get spanked! There are other ways to discipline your childen, absuse will only worsen the situation & affect your children's well being in the long run.
Try communicating & if he doesn't want to listen, I'm sorry sweetie but you're going to have to consider some drastic measures?
Good luck to you my dear.
2007-01-09 18:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have a rough life an i sure don't envy you....
what else can you do but get on your feet an get on with your life. for you an the kids both. the hubby has no intention of taking care of you all. so your best bet , even though you love him - is to get rid of him. he does not respect you an would prob. fool around on you if he had more of a chance to. he is already somewhat two timing you , right there in front of you. if he don't respect you at least respect yourself.
2007-01-09 18:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first cootos to you for trying but u really need to set him down and give him a peace of your mind if you are going to be a single mother you can get a place for you and your kids because they need a stable home not living with someone else no mater if it is the grandparent you seem very independent to me it is better to be alone and happy with your children then trying with your husband and not getting nowhere good luck to you and your kids
2007-01-09 19:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing is only hurting you and your children. It is not ok to allow him to treat your children this way. By allowing his behavior, you are teaching your children that this is normal. Any mother would want more, at least for her children.
Tell them that things need to change now, or you and your children will be making a change of address.
2007-01-09 18:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are gonna have to break his computer fantasy.
You are gonna have to e-mail him find a new e-mail he does not know and start e-mailing him. He will not remember all the womens names say you are a friend of one of them and you were given his e-mail , tell him you do not have Instant Message. get what you need to know out of him. or wait till it is hot and juicy and tell him its me honey... Do not get mad at him... You were doing the same. Tell him you like a man who is good with Children (he will start being nice to his), Tell him you like a man who is dedicated to working and raising his family.. etcc......
2007-01-09 18:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am sure you have tried talking to him, I would leave. I mean what is he doing to help you? you could do what you are doing and probably better in your own place. he sounds like just another kid you are taking care of. what is wrong with him?
2007-01-09 18:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay down some rules and abide by them. You need to move out on your own.
2007-01-09 18:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋