my boyfriend has that problem. he is such a wonderful partner in all other areas and does his best to pleasure me but too many times we end up with him apologizing he could not get there. He loves me so much and i don't want him to feel insecure about his prowess but we end up frustrated most of the time. me feeling like i am not desirable and he feeling incompetent. I know he is attracted to me because he would be the first to initiate lovemaking most of the times but he just fails to deliver and other people may say it does not matter, believe me, have it this way long enough and it will matter. medically he is cleared. he does not take any medication what soever. does not drink, only smokes. HELP PLEASE.
2007-01-09 10:13:54 · 13 answers · asked by allheart 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I've had the same problem. So, my husband went to the doctor, who gave him Cialis, which really worked good. However, I do have to say that taking medication is not the total answer. There appears to be some sort of problem and you and your boyfriend should go get counseling or at least him at first. There is a reason why this is happenning. For my husband, there was a reason for it happenning. It took awhile for the therapy. However, since you don't want your boyfriend to be on this medication forever, it would be good to get him and you the therapy....sex therapy. I dont know where you live, but it depends, some cities, there are plenty, in others there are far too few. Also, just because you go and see one sex therapist, doesn't mean that is the right one for both of you. You both have to be comfortable with that therapist. It took my husband several therapist until he felt he could work with one of them. ALSO, there is a book, I forget the name, in which there are exercises that you and your boyfriend can do. I'll let the sex therapist explain that one. Don't give up. I can tell you from experience that the worse thing you can do is get mad or upset. Give him all the support and understanding...this is not something he can control at this time. I also felt the same way you did in terms of not feeling like a women and kept thinking that he is not attracted to me. But, that is not the case. There is something deep inside, psychologically, that is going on that he needs to bring to the surface and deal with. I hope I helped.
2007-01-09 10:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Viagra. The generic brand can be had for less than 2 bucks a pill and you don't need a perscription.
DO a search ''generic sildenafil'' and shop!
Sildenafil is used to treat erectile dysfunction (impotence; inability to get or keep an erection) in men. Sildenafil is in a class of medications called phosphodiesterase (PDE) inhibitors. It works by increasing blood flow to the penis during sexual stimulation. This increased blood flow can cause an erection. Sildenafil does not cure erectile dysfunction or increase sexual desire. Sildenafil does not prevent pregnancy or the spread of sexually transmitted diseases such as human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
2007-01-09 10:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said he's been tested and he is cleared medically, but I have to ask if he was tested for diabetes? My husband had the same problem and believe me, it became an issue for us as well. We each experienced the same things as the two of you. Then he happened to go for a pre-employment physical and that is where they found he has diabetes. This is one of the side effects of diabetes. He had no idea prior to this physical. In short there are two things that come to mind:
diabetes
drug use
If both of those are negative, there are natural male enhancement medications at places like GNC which is a nutritional supplement store. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 10:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head, hes a smoker and this is what happens..
smoking causes hypertension it also starves the body of oxygen the body then makes more red blood cells to cary the oxygen to the body. unfortunelty this also can cause blockage of the arteries that carry blood threwout the body including the penis.
He has to stop smoking. not later but now. He may be able to get that erection back. but now while he is a smoker
2007-01-09 10:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smoking can really affect that. Also he may have erectile dysfunction. It's not impossible to fix, and he should seriously see a doctor about it, hopefully it's not a sign of something worst. Which it could be, so to be on the safe side he should have it checked. In the meantime it can be really frustrating for both. So be patient, and take it slowly.
2007-01-09 10:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs to tell the doctor, Viagra does work with this situation, even medically cleared, he can use this. What it does is open the blood vessels to be able to become fully erect and stay erect. Have him read about this, it is more common then men want to talk about.
2007-01-09 10:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure hes relaxed, in a sexy mood and gets plenty of pleasure.
If worst comes to worst maybe suggest the idea of watching pornography with him, see if that helps?
2007-01-09 10:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by dantasticc1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erectile Dysfunction is what he might have. Check out this link, there is more information regarding this issue.
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/impotence/index.htm
2007-01-09 12:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Goddess24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the cigarettes they are bad and have him eat more protein.
2007-01-09 10:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get him on some male inhansment but talk w/ him and a doc 1st!
2007-01-09 10:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by ELISE DA BEAST! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋