Why is it such a sin for people who suffer to feel sorry for them selfs?

Question

& why as a so called civalized world, dont we try to be there for these people, cheer them up, care. is feeling sorry for someones plight also a sin? Why instead of human nurturing & love do we just dismiss these people with medication apperthy?

Answer 1

Hi Donna,I don,t think it is a sin to feel sorry for yourself...Whoever told you that lied...I have felt sorry for myself many times over.When I get spoken to ugly and i don,t deserve it,I cry and say i don,t deserve this and I feel sorry for myself,or when I am mistreated...I cannot think of one person that has not at one time or other felt sorry for themselves..Sometime we have to because no one is ther for support..We should be there for these people..If I see a friend of mine is down I always try to cheer them up..We don,t need medication when we get like this,all we need is a caring person to comfort us...get it out of your head that its a sin because it isn,t.....Everybody does it...

Answer 2

Who said it was a sin? I feel compassion all the time for people in not so great situations. I feel sorry for people who always struggle, those who never seem to catch a break. And sometimes, I feel sorry for myself. Not often, because I am blessed over and over everyday.I think the problem occurs when "people" wallow in their self pity, because then, you can't move forward. Unless you see hope for something better, you're stuck in the hell created by yourself. And the longer you do it, the harder it is to get back in the game of life. As for medicating, well it's the way of the world. When we as a society make progress, such as, developing treatments for those who have true mental health issues, we can't just leave it at that. We have to screw it up...all the time, because we're human. The person being offered the medication does always have the option of saying no.

Answer 3

It isn't a sin to feel sorry for yourself but it isn't healthy. When people feel sorry for themselves, they are taking their problems and making them much larger than they are. Feeling sorry for oneself usually leads to depression and feelings of hopelessness which can lead to isolation and ultimately suicide. Granted, we should be there to help these people out of their deep bouts of selfpity but the truly endangered ones lock their depression deep inside until it builds into such a large issue that only therapy or medication seem to penetrate the fog. Those that constantly spew woe is me mentality around are more often than not seeking praise and selfgratification, which can get tiring and so when it comes to the time when they really need help, no one is there. The important thing is to teach others that they are not the center of the universe and that their problems, as big as they may seem, are solvable and that tomorrow is a new day, a better day, for them to face it with hope and to handle one problem at a time.

Answer 4

i think everybody has good and bad days.i have them and i dont expect everyone to join in on my pity party.i do think that its nice to have people to be around and help you when you are down,but lets face it there are alot of people who take total advantage of the fact someone is always gonna make excuses and say everythings all right.i love helping people when they need it but ive also been used so many times that im over it.this is alittle off the subject but im pregnant and i had no insurance.i had to go and get tenncare.i dont want food stamps or anything else just insurance.i know people out there that abuse the system and take what they can get.the people at the offie acted like crap to me because i needed help.i pay taxes and work my butt off.and thats why that system is there for me.not some lazy person who pops out ten kids so they can sit on thier butts at home propped up watching springer eating a bag of chips that ive paid for.thats why its hard to help people.because there are a select few who turn you completly against it.

Answer 5

I don't know who you mean by we. I go out of my way to help. I have never heard that it is a sin to feel sorry for yourself or for others. Some people use it as a crutch and just keep feeling sorry for themselves for years when they should get on with life.

Answer 6

I don't think it is a sin, but it leads to loss of hope. If you sit around feeling sorry for yourself you won't go out and make your situation better.

I admire many people that have had bad luck or are in a bad situation but have the persistence to continue to improve themselves no matter what

Answer 7

Donna I mumma, I am eternally curious and wonder why you ask this.
The world will only be a civilized as each of us make it. If you see something that needs to be done, then its probably your job to start doing something about it. My house, my car, my clothes are only as clean as I make them. So it sounds like you would want to buck up the courage, cast aside your judgments of “the world” and start loving folks. Set the example of what to do and you won’t be a victim of what people do not do.

Pity is, I believe, is an ugly destructive state. It is the opposite side of the coin of detest. Pity involves looking down on someone with a sense of superiority.

It sounds like, based on the latter part of your question that you are mixing the state of compassion (loving kindness toward others) with pity.

Those people on medication are only dimissed if you dismiss them.

However, sometimes we humans will get so wrapped up in our pain that we become addicted to it. We become addicted to running on the hamster wheel of pain and suffering. You will see this show up as things that keep happening to the person; sometimes called victim. They themselves always profess their innocence and often wonder why things happen TO them.

Answer 8

feeling sorry for yourself or others doesnt actually help simply because if you are feeling sorry for someone even yourself you are placing a distance between your sorrow about their situation and them. A more useful thing is to feel sorry with them. In other words have empathy not sympathy.This closes the distance between your sorrow and the person.

Answer 9

It is not a sin. If you had the life they have had, you would feel sorry for yourself also.

Answer 10

usully if u fel sorry for your self you brought the problem to yourself