with him and talk. If we didn't have a child together I think I would never talk to him. I feel sorry for him. But, I don't want him to interfer with my marriage and new family. I love my husband and never want to lose him. What should I do?
2007-01-09 10:08:23 · 26 answers · asked by Questions&Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him I cant be alone with him. I told him about friendfinder.com. I also told him if he wanted he could come here and hang out with his daughter and play video games they both like to do that.
He asked me why I thought it was a bad idea to be alone... I told him because I don't want to make my hubby jealous or something I will regret to happen. He said I could keep it from my husband...so I guess his intentions were bad. I am glad I didn't go with him. THANKS ALL!!!
2007-01-09 10:41:16 · update #1
Tell your ex you are sorry to hear about his problems, but thats life. You are not obligated to listen to his sad tale of woe. Lord knows you wont get any credit for listening, he probably just wants sex, so steer clear of this moron.
2007-01-09 10:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is disrespect. Period. Two become one. You are a team. Teammates don't work against each other they work together. Why are you trying to understand? She is being very mean to you. It is a form of rejection. You feel rejected, in your own home, in your own marriage. Pretty sad and extremely cruel of your wife. That being said if her ex has a new love and the four of you do couples things only, as weird as that sounds, you could handle it. But this man has held your wife in his arms and loved her. They did'nt have a mutual breakup. Someone wanted to stay. So bottom line the one who wanted to stay together (her or him I don't know or care) is having an exciting and hopeful conversation everytime they talk. Where can this lead? He isn't concerned about you or he would ask you personally if it's ok to talk to her. You are in a world where you will be told you are insecure or jealous or controlling. Bull. You are a man. We want a castle. We want our women to be OUR queen. And we will give her jewels and treasures and mostly ourselves. But many a king has put on a chasity belt on his queen to guard her from intruders. You have an intruder in your kingdom that is invited in by your wife. Not good. Not norman. Not safe for your marriage. Raise the bridge, make sure the moat surrounding the castle is full of alligators and lock up that chasity belt until you get home and are ready to take your queen. Forgive and love your queen and fight off the enemy w all the force you can. Sometimes the only way to peace is on the other side of war. Good luck.
2016-05-23 00:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even think about what do about this. You are married to another man and have a new family and you shouldn't be having anything to do with your ex-husband that doesn't involve your child. If he needs a friend then he needs to turn to someone else or even a family member in his family. If I was your current husband I would be outraged that you were even thinking about this. How would you feel if your current husband wanted to have a drink with his ex-wife because she just got dumped? I know the answer to that and so do you.
2007-01-09 10:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl...your ex is your ex for a reason. You better tell him he better pray to God he will listen to him. A drink? Oh my God! Don't do it. You know alcohol has spirits in them. One thing will lead to another. The next thing you know is you'll end up feeling sorry for him (Opps, you already feel that way imagine how a drink or two will make you feel) and wan't to make him happy. Child or no child together, you shouldn't be alone with that man. If anything take your husband along with you.
2007-01-09 10:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'd like to help him but there is more at stake here than having a drink with him (your future with your new husband). I would also clarify to him that if it wasn't for the child you have between the two of you you probably wouldn't even have contact with him (after the divorce). His problems don't become yours unless it pertains to the up bringing fo your child together (be specific). Tell him you're sorry but you can't help him with his problem and tell him to go see a therapist.
2007-01-09 10:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by beamer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't he have any family or friends to talk to? If he was so interested in listening to you you guys would probably still be together. Keep that door closed no conversation unless it is about your child. Let him down in a nice way. Just tell him that you can't be that part of his life anymore and wish him the best.
2007-01-09 10:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he only wanted to talk, he would talk to you over the phone. The fact that he wants to have a drink with you, would get me to think he wants other things. All you have to do to get your answer is think what if it were the other way around? Would I want my husband having a drink with his ex wife who is getting a divorce? I'm sure we all agree, that would be a NO.
2007-01-09 10:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell you ex no and be honest. If he really needs someone to talk to then the phone should be enough, or he can find someone else to talk to. My ex and I are good friends but I really think wife would have a hard time with us meeting for drinks.
2007-01-09 10:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by King 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should not be your concern anymore about what goes on in your ex's life. Let him figure this out on his own. Perhaps this may not be suitable for your new husband as far as you going and talking to your ex about a divorse.
2007-01-09 10:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would your husband be pissed if he knew? How would you feel if your current husband met his ex wife or ex gf for drinks? And remember, what you do in the dark always comes to light.
2007-01-09 10:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Hair Diva 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋