One of my best friends is bi. I'm not, I'm straight. She said she liked someone and said that she can't tell me who because she doesn't know what I'd think. She then told me it was a girl, I had no problem with it. She then said that I knew the girl, the girl rides my bus, and the girl loves her hair. Well, there are only 2 girls on my bus, including me, that she knows. I asked if it was the other girl on the bus, and she said no. I do like her hair, and of course I ride my bus and I do know me, so I think she talking about me. She also wants me to guess who she is talking about. I don't really feel comfortable guessing myself for some reason, so how can I tell her I think its me and I'm not like that without hurting her feeling? I don't have a problem with her being bi, or if she does like me, I wouldn't care either, I just don't want to hurt her feelings. Please help me...
2007-01-09 10:07:31 · 15 answers · asked by ~T♥ri 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be honest with her. Tell her how you feel. I know it will be an awkward conversation but if you don't return her feelings in the same way the quicker you resolve it the easier it will be. If you two are truly friends you will find a way to work it out.
2007-01-09 10:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. If you cant even talk about sumthing as minor as that without destroying the friendship, you two arent really that close. Say it in a playful manner if u need to. If it were me I would just be like, "look honey, do u have a crush on me? Yea i know im sexy & all but i dont swing that way!." Or u can just say you dont want to change the dynamics of your friendship by taking it there. Flat out. Thats what i would say if i was straight.
2007-01-09 10:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "No Offense" is shorthand for "What I'm going to mention you may also discover offensive, however it's whatever I ought to say when you consider that I admire you adequate to talk to you truthfully despite the fact that a few of the ones matters I say might harm your emotions." Now whether or not or now not the character real way "No Offense" is a different query.
2016-09-03 19:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her if it is you that she is interested in. Her feelings will be a little hurt but it's better to let her know how you feel now rather than leading her on. Maybe you could help her find a new crush, one that will reciprocate her feelings.
2007-01-09 10:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by honeyleelove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the Exception of Geraldine follow what the others have told you they are telling you correctly just be truthfull with her that you are straight & not interested L& still want ot be her friend no matter what.
2007-01-09 10:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by lookingin48215 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she brings it up again I would just tell her that you hope it isn't someone that she already knows only likes guys, because she is one of your best friends and that you would hate to see her waste her energy on liking someone "that way" who doesn't feel a sexual attraction to girls as well.
2007-01-09 10:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play her little game, it can't be to bad. All you got to do is say "is it me?" then she will say yes, and then its over, are you sure your straight, maybe bi-curious?
Theres nothing wrong with trying something (unless its drugs...). You might end up liking it who knows?
BTW: I am a guy, straight
2007-01-09 10:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever had a guy attracted to you that you weren't interested in???
Of course you have.
This is no different....just a simple "No, thank you" is usually enough. Explain to her what you told us. You value her friendship but you aren't interested in women romantically.
2007-01-09 12:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and gentle with her, she needs to know that you're straight. Make sure she knows you accept her fully, and before any of this, make sure you are in fact who she's talking about. Sounds like it though.
2007-01-09 10:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I DONT THINK I WOULD SAY ANYTHING UNLESS SHE, ALMOST COMES RIGHT OUT AND SAYS ITS YOU. THEN YOU WILL NEED TO TELL HER FIRMLY THAT YOU DONT GO THAT WAY BUT YOU STILL WANT TO BE HER BEST FRIEND NO MATTER WHICH WAY SHE TURNS. AND IF ANY "MORE THEN FRIENDLY" CONTACT OCCURS SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT IS NOT OK EITHER.
2007-01-09 10:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by MARY M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋