2007-01-09 10:05:12 · 35 answers · asked by bashmentgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband did the same thing. I think it was 10th or 11month that I found out. So actually he was cheated before that. I think its a dam shame that they put us though the hole marry thing. For in a few months they can cheat. Its sad to me that they didn't take there vows seriously.I would like to know what is your husband doing now. Is he telling you he'll never do it again or did you kick him out or did he leave on his own to be with this other women?Whatever he does or says I believe if they get away with it once they will cheat on you again. It may not be this year but sometime down the line. You will never trust him again.I know it's hard to just close the door. I am a expert on it I took my husband back I think 10 times after I found out about his cheating after we married with the same women. My excuse was were married and we have a child together. And a marriage is worth saving. Ya the first time they cheat, it might be worth trying to fix it. After the second, the 3 the 4th the 5, the 6th etc.. not. Every time I took him back a little bit of me was missing.I was sick inside, I was unhappy, depress, but the smile on my son face was wroth it at time. I thought. But really it wasn't. Because my son was loosing his mom over depression and always stress. I was all ways waiting to see how long my husband was going to stay this time, before he leave and cheat with this same women again. It was awful.In this last time he left. I knew I had enough. I knew deep inside me that I was not going back. And guess what he called 2weeks before this x-mass crying to come back. And he called 1 week ago to come back. And guess what he still with that same women. And not for one second will I ever go back to him. I moved on. I have a new boyfriend. Am filing for a divorce. For the first time am happy. And you will get there. If you do take him back your going to have to watch your back at all times. Deep inside you your not going to trust him. And as soon as you feel you can let your guard down that's when he might do it again. Am sorry to tell you like that but its true. To help yourself you need God. God will help you with your pain. And listen to Dr. Laura on 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri Southern CA time.And she has really good self help books
Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives. Things like this will help you. The pain don't go away. But it gets easy er. Even today sometimes I feel hurt by him. This is the man I married. But something has crossed over in I can't go back now.
2007-01-09 10:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happen to me belive me it does not get any better. I stayed
for 10 years and I have two kids and he was never faithful I left
him after 10 years it was awful he been with the same girl since
my son was 2 years old my son is now 11 years old. Once a
man cheats he will never be faithful . He might stop for a while
but if he can't commit with your married he really can never. I wasted 10 years of my life with someone who did not love me. I hurts more to stay and find out after all those years that he keep on cheating . If i could go back i would have left when he first did
it. No second chance! It been hard now I am 34 years old and not that young and skinny . It a little hard to find a man as you get
older. I would defintely leave him and never look back. Life is to
short to waste it one some like him. There are alot of other men
and you will get over him. Take it from someone who has been
though it. Hope you find you answer! Good luck!
2007-01-09 10:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by klaudia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think the marriage is worth saving give couples counseling a try, if not file for divorce. HOWEVER, before you tell him you want a divorce speak with an attorney first. A good attorney can advise you on what measures to take to protect yourself first.
2007-01-09 10:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. If he is already cheating man he'll be cheating on you forever. Time to take out the trash hun.
2007-01-09 10:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to consulingif worth saving if not get a divorce cause if he's cheating already then he'll keep cheating.
2007-01-09 10:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by baby11kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months...??? get a divorce.....u dont want to be with a man for the rest of your life who cheats after 6 months
2007-01-09 10:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by DiamandaG 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definantly have your marriage annulled! Once a cheater, pretty much ALWAYS a cheater! You deserve better! Save yourself alot less heartache and Kick his sorry, low down, good for nothin' azz to the curb! ~Good Luck~
2007-01-09 10:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Peaches ( . ) ( . ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the result of jumping into bed too quickly, you circumvent the stages of marriage.
First you fall in love then you court for at least a year then you get married.
Confront him and nip it in the bud before its too late.
2007-01-09 10:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ready for some hell to begin. revenge is sweeter than christmas my dear. but not by you, of course. the best thing for you to do is get the hell out of the marriage. he's not worth the effort in keeping around. the hurt is too deep and now you must do what you feel is right for you. get out.
and to the men and women out there who cheat - vengence can be given in small packages and i hope you all get your hearts ripped out.
2007-01-09 10:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre sure he is cheating and have proof you should seperate.
If you both want to work on the marriage I suggest counseling.
If you want out of the marriage I would leave him and tell him that you want out!
2007-01-09 12:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by the librarian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋