She's been saying stuff like, "i've always wanted a gay guy friend", and that she's looked all over and now she knows about me, she continously asks me questions like its a joke. I feel like she will never leave me alone, what can I do? Now she wants to out me to her best friend after I told her I dont want it out.
2007-01-09 09:55:10 · 9 answers · asked by mr_dynasty 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She will probably grow out of this stage. It's just new to her. It may be an attempt to show you how open she is to your lifestyle.
2007-01-09 20:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls just love having gay guy friends because they are fun to hang around, safe from liking them, and not very common. You are the first gay guy friend she's had, unfortunately, and so she wants to know what it's like being one. Just sit her down one day and talk to her about how it makes you feel; she'll listen if she's a good friend. Tell her that you need to wait to come out until you are ready, and that any sooner would make you highly uncomfortable. She seems nice, if a little nosy, and I'm sure she will listen to you.
2007-01-09 10:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have came out to the wrong person! She's what you call a "f@g-hag". If that term is offensive, i apologize. But its real. These are women who are straight, but just LOVE LOVE LOVE gay men. They have lots of gay male friends but tend to shy away from lesbians (fear of being turned out maybe?) They also tend to treat her gay friends like puppies...."see what my gay friend can do??!!" They really are quite annoying at times. You just need to shut her uo for a second and make her listen to you. Tell her that you arent her "toy" to be shown off at show & tell. You are an adult and you demand to be treated like one. If she respects you, she'll stop. If she doesnt', she wont, & u need to find a new bestfriend.
2007-01-09 10:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess she finds your sexuality quite intriguing...kinda like she's living in a real life Will and Grace or something.
She's maybe feeling kinda proud about herself for having a 'cool gay friend'...maybe she feels it shows how open-minded and tolerant she is....she wants her friend to know so she can feel validated and get some kudos....i'm guessing you're both teenagers...hopefully she'll get over it when she matures a little more.
2007-01-09 10:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you came out to a bad friend. She should be able to keep a secret. She might still be in the shock process and it will die down soon.
Oh and congrats on coming out (even if you didn't pick the best person)... I still don't have the guts to do it!
2007-01-09 10:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The novelty will soon wear thin. Your her first gay friend so shes curious. She is also obviously a gossip. She sounds immature. What is she 12?
2007-01-09 10:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by doomonyou! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's still enthralled by the novelty of it all. But under no circumstances may she out you to anyone without your permission and still expect to be considered a friend.
2007-01-09 09:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't deal with that crap. Tell her you don't want to be anyone's pet homosexual, and that she can come back when she's ready to treat you like a normal human being.
2007-01-09 13:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what wrong with being inquisitive?
2007-01-09 10:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋