I'm from Virginia but I attend Ohio State University. My boyfriend still lives in VA and he recently moved in with his aunt because the rent for his apt. became too high for him to manage. He is a nonsmoker and hates living with his aunt bc she smokes in the house and he has to sleep on the couch. He has applied to attend Columbus State next year, but wants to move up here this weekend because of his problems with his aunt. Originally, he was supposed to move here in Sept. My mother is supportive but my dad has threatened to stop paying my tuition/rent next year if my b/f moves in with me. To me it seems like a good idea because he can go to school here and pay much less for an apartment with me than in VA. Is it really a good idea tho?
2007-01-09 09:51:46 · 10 answers · asked by mpress7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Darling, this bf is looking for a solution to his problem, which is his living arrangements, and not that he is dying from missing you. Your Father has some sense! He knows this boy is only looking to solve his housing dilima, by shacking up with his beloved daughter, at his expense no less! Your bf is using you for a crash pad, not because his love for you is so deep, but because he needs a better place to stay. Think about that! Do you like to be used like that? When he no longer "needs" you for something (sex, food, shelter) you will be history! Please, you are worth more than that. A man who loves you and cares for you, would NEVER resort to using you for his own personal needs, instead of fending for himself. If your bf was really trying to do you right, he would be moving to be closer to you, be closer to school, but not putting your own housing at risk in an effort to get a roof over his own. A real man would be mortified to have a possible future wife/father in law/mother in law think of him as needing assistance like that and also, for him to not give a rats behind that your father would cut off your own housing allowance, should tell you all you need to know. Lose the LOSER! He will bring you nothing but unhappiness. Trust me!
2007-01-09 10:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. You know the guy. We don't. So, based on that understanding, you need to decide if the two of you love each other.
Moving with him, only because he can't stand his aunt's smoking habits, doesn't really sounds like a good thing. Don't you think?
2007-01-09 09:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, people now-a-days think living together is like practice marriage.
I seen people live in together, get married, and get divorced in under 3 years time of being together.
And, your father is paying your tuition/rent, he got the money, you do not, what you think?
Unless you can pay your tuition/rent, then do as you please.
Cause so long as your under your fathers support, your still under his roof.
2007-01-09 10:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by chaznc_28607 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing house is never a good idea. Listen to Dad.
2007-01-09 09:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a good idea.
Consider your relationship with this boyfriend and what you expect of marriage in the future.
2007-01-09 10:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can u afford the apartment and school on your own if your dad cuts u off ? if not then listen to dad you boyfriend can make it on his own.
2007-01-09 09:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you have to do what makes you feel right ,if he's really in need at the moment think of him as a friend you would be helping out. like they say what goes around comes around so hoefully in your time of need he will also be there for you.
2007-01-09 09:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by miss-info 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever works for you 2 just tell your bf he has to leave if your dad ever comes around so you wont have any problems...
2007-01-09 09:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is never good to live together, but that is a decision that only you can make...Good Luck to You!
2007-01-09 10:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all.
2007-01-09 10:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋