he found this stripper and she does not want to give her job. but they love each other so much. so he lets her do it they r going to get married. he quit his job and his colloge just for her.and he is also telling me she has dieseses.HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 09:47:44 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont worry if he keeps tipping her she will love him to.yea right
2007-01-09 09:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by brian l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Help you, or help your brother?
#1 There's nothing wrong with your brother falling for a stripper. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then you shouldn't either. Stripping is inequal to being a slut, if that's what you're thinking. Many people get into that career for different reasons, whether it be the easy money or a passion for dancing nude. He knew she was a stripper when they met, right? So why worry! He knew what he was getting himself into!
#2 If he quit college for the girl it's his choice. Not the smartest choice, but it's his none the less. It's already been done. You can't do anything about that but try to convince him to go back unless he has a good reason.
#3 What diseases does the stripper have? If its a disease she was born with or something caused by gentics then why are you worried? We all have a chance of getting something from the moment we were concieved. If it's an STD you're talking about then I would be worried too, but I doubt it or else your brother would have left her already UNLESS HE was the one to give it to her. If not, then I would be concerned to but there's only so much anther person can do to convince someone out of a dangerous relationship.
All in all, if he's happy then you need to leave him alone, unless the relationship is truely damaging him. But like I said before, there's only so much you can do. In the end it'll be up to him to decide, not you.
2007-01-09 10:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by lecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad fact is that it's your brother that need the help and not you sorry to say. All you can do truly is love and support him unconditionally at this time. I am not suggesting that there is anything wrong with the profession that his current girlfriend has bit the fact that he has given up his goals and education for her is a mistake that he will probably regret and perhaps even be resentful towards her in the future. Your parents must be upset also by his choice of girlfriend (but I am trying to keep an open mind) and the fact that he seems to be blowing his dreams away for her. If you can talk with her and suggest that she tell him to return to school so he has a future (as hers will be short lived, as aging strippers aren't big sellers) he may be more receptive. Other than that I haven't the foggiest idea other than informing him to be careful if she has diseases and that these diseases may affect any children that they may have in the future so he should think about that also. Hate to say this out loud but hopefully it is just a phase for your brother and he will outgrow it before making additional poor life choices. Best of luck to you and your family.
2007-01-09 09:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do except tell him your logical and resonable reasons why this could be a bad match for him. If he's not the jealous type, then the only real issue would be the diseases. But there are plenty of people out there who aren't strippers who have diseases, and there are plenty of men silly enough to give up great jobs and/or college for a woman. Not much else you can do besides point these things out to him. Good Luck
2007-01-09 09:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We can't help whom we fall for, as long as they're good for each other there's nothing wrong with it.
In saying that, doesn't sound too good he's left his job and college for her...The fact she's a stripper and has diseases is of course, not exactly ideal, but not accepting her because of that is narrow minded and he'll end up turning his back on you if you don't.
All you can do is be supportive and not judge him for his choice. Obviously if you feel the relationship is not good for him you should talk to him about it.
2007-01-09 10:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Vixy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother gave up his job and his college for a stripper who doesnt want to stop. She has diseases which means shes sleeps around. Convince your brother that she is not marriage material. You cant turn a hoe into a housewife. I hope he is using condoms! Geez! Are people insane this day in age. Tell him to get his lazy aZZ back in school and find a job. Does he want a death wish. If she has diseases that shouldve been more then enough reason to leave her.
2007-01-09 09:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by meka g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious talk with him because how the heck are they supposed to be financially stable in the long run if he quit his job and education? This woman will not be able to strip all her life. . .the older a person gets the more south certain body parts travel. If she has diseases then how are they supposed to have children of their own and not have your brother or the kids infected? Your brother needs to have some sense literally knocked into him.
2007-01-09 09:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i replaced right into a dancer for 2 years... i'm not immoral. i'm Atheist (sure, I certainly have comprehend and morals) I certainly have a eye-catching kinfolk, going to college... i don't understand in case you're religious or not, yet do what you elect and what you sense is maximum suitable. wish your loved ones respects your determination. I do have suggestion for you. There are some ladies obtainable that supply dancers a foul call... relatively get to appreciate her. this is a decrease throat interest, and alot of females study the thank you to lie, cheat and thieve very speedy... wish the main suitable for ya.
2016-10-30 11:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to seriously start looking for another brother.
I don't get why "he quit his job... just for her." most strippers that I have talked with have not been crazy about boyfriends sitting on the couch playing PlayStation games.
2007-01-09 11:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bad Day 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stripping is NOT always a bad profession, if it is just a front for prostitution then it is. As for having diseases, if they are STDs hopefully they are taking necessary precautions to protect him from them. If it is true love all will work out, if not be there with a shoulder to cry on when the time is right, not an accusing "told you so"
2007-01-09 09:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by topdawgco97 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PRAY. . . PRAY. . .PRAY. . for your brother! Satan has a strong hold on him and he needs a lot of prayer. You might need a lot of prayer also because you have not slapped the dog mess out of him, secondly you have not told your parents and lastly your spelling tells me that you might not be too bright either, so you trying to help him is not your strong point. You definitely need GOD to intervene in both of your lives. So good luck and GOD BLESS YOU
2007-01-09 09:55:55 · answer #11 · answered by Malik V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋