And don't say, "you just know". I mean, you can find faults in anyone, so how do you decide to marry or not. And to have kids? I feel like you just take a chance and do it. There is a chance that anyone will cheat on you or leave you, even if you think they never will. So how can you just say, okay, lets just do it. Any advice?
2007-01-09 09:37:27 · 17 answers · asked by Huh? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, are you engaged now? I guess I don't know understand why you are asking this question. I will just answer this question based on my own experience.
I was engaged once a few years ago. I said yes because I knew it was what everyone wanted me to do and even though I loved him, I wasn't ready for that yet. I went through all of the notions and when the day came for me to buy my gown, I practically had a nervous break down. I ended it with him the next day. I couldn't take the pressure and it ruined us. I still have the dress and the brides maid dresses too.
I then ended up finding the perfect guy for me the next year. We have been together for almost 3 years and although we both know we want to be married to each other eventually, we have never spoken of it. We don't put pressure on each other, we just enjoy our lives together and look forward to tomorrow.
I guess my point is that if you are so worried about when to be married to someone, then you are preoccupied and are probably missing all of the good stuff that makes the two of you so great together. Don't worry so much and when the time is right it will mean so much more to both of you.
Good luck!!
2007-01-09 09:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn62082 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be engaged whilst I used to be 24 and married whilst I used to be 26 Our marriage ceremony colours had been a faded peach and chocolate brown We each and every had our brothers as witnesses (two complete), it used to be an overly small marriage ceremony (14 humans had been there adding us and our reverend) Our reception used to be held a month after our marriage ceremony, and we didn't have assigned seating, such a lot humans did not take a seat, it used to be a cocktail get together We had a small chocolate cake after which a type of cakes for humans to pick, I believe there have been five special offerings We went to Maui for 2 weeks We acquired married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny the city at the coast, simply external of Lincoln City
2016-09-03 19:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that first of all, you need to be sure that you're willing to deal with all of the cons of marriage, as well as reap the rewards of the pros. Getting married and having kids is a very big step and should never be done "just because it was the next step." Make sure that you are ready to not only take care of yourself, but that you are ready for the responsibility of doing what is best for your family, even if it is not the easiest solution for you.
P.S. But that doesn't mean that you need to always give in!!
2007-01-09 09:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone is a leap of faith not only in the person that you choose but also in yourself but knowing when to marry is when you love someone so much that your life wouldn't be whole without them and that means that you trust them with faults and all. Having children is an extension of our love and trust in our partner. So the best advice that I could give is make sure that your choice of a spouse is someone that you truly love and trust.
2007-01-09 09:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your heart you'll know when you want to marry someone. Life is all about chances and everyone who marries gambles on their future some are great but in any marriage both partners have to work on it and work not 50/50 but 100/100, and if your willing to work on it thats part of the gamble you can win
2007-01-09 09:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by valerie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you already find yourself spending and enjoying all your time with that person--when their the first person you want to tell when something great, or not so great happens--when you realize you just can't imagine your life without that person. True marriage isn't something that happens on paper--that's just a legal contract. True marriage happens in the heart, and no amount of paperwork can change it.
2007-01-09 09:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew because I wanted to spend every free moment with him. Even after a year of dating, and being with him almost every day, I still can't get enough. And I don't just mean sex. I mean I can't get enough of being around him. I want to be with him all the time. When I'm not with him, I'm thinking of him. I also knew cuz we were able to work through disagreements without calling it quits. That meant alot to me. I'm just happier when I'm with him.
2007-01-09 12:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can't imagine NOT marrying that person and think you'd just die if they weren't with you for a day and when their happiness is the most important thing in your world, then (and only then) it's time to consider marriage.
2007-01-09 13:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have to discuss the future together and see how each of you fit in each others plans and dreams. you both have to love each other unconditionally in the good and the bad......If you can *compromise* & have patience which is the key to a healthy marriage you should be fine and go for it =)
2007-01-09 09:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a pretty clear future with someone and both parties are at the exact same stage in life.
2007-01-09 09:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋