We were at this party and my friends boyfriend for almost a year kissed me. Hes also one of my really good friends, the kind of friends you can tell anything too. And at the party we were at he told me he didn't want 2 be with her anymore and that he wanted 2 go out with me and I kinda like him, I'v known him longer than her and 2 break up with her he told everybody that we slept together, even when I told him I just wanted 2 be friends, now her and everybody elsa won't even speak or look at me. And this is the kind of place where everybody knows everybody and their so hate'in on me. Can someone give me a litttle advice on what 2 do?
2007-01-09 09:36:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, you need to address the boy. He needs some serious growing up time and you should be the one to tell him that what he did was thoughtless, mean, and cruel to use a lie about you to breakup with your best friend. Dump him and have nothing more to do with his childish ways. Second, you need to address your friend who got hurt by what he did. I would write her a note, telling her that you're very very sorry about what did take place (and come clean, tell her the truth about kissing him - otherwise she may not believe when you tell her that you didn't sleep with the guy). Tell her that you understand if she doesn't want to be your friend anymore, but you're really hurt and missing her friendship, and hope she'll reconsider.
As for dealing with everyone else, just remember that you know what you did and didn't do, and you should hold your head high when people accuse you of being a slut or whatever. If you act responsibly, this will pass and people will see you for who you are, not what some jerk guy says.
Be strong - you'll make it.
2007-01-09 09:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before everything u kinda kissed him lower back.................what style of mess is that and how a lot bestfriend are u? Did u even tell her? or did she locate out from some different person? That become thoroughly incorrect and he's no longer the concern in any respect because ignore him she's your chum and u had administration over the problem. out of each of the adult men on the social gathering and women, the both one among you managed to kiss one yet another?
2016-12-28 13:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I hope you are not surprised that everyone is mad at you.
As for what to do now, don't go out with him. He may seem like someone you like, but he obviously doesn't take relationships seriously and has no problem cheating. Doesn't seem like he has any respect for girls, and certainly none for you if he told everyone he slept with you.
As for your friend, all I can say is apologize.... write her an email, call her something and maybe after some time goes by she won't hate you anymore.
2007-01-09 09:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hotsauce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice? Go to sleep for several years. Wake up in your 20s, when you have a better idea of how to act, and who to pick. You 'kinda' like a guy who is ditching your friend, lied to everyone about all 3 of you, and you wonder why people look at you dirty when you're hooking up with him. I've got a question for you- have you talked to your 'best friend' lately? Is she very happy right now? But you don't even mention how she feels.
You're selfish. And young.
2007-01-09 09:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not date him, do not be friends with him. He used you and your name and rep to kick her to the curb! Now you look like a skank and it is all his fault. Deny what happened and never speak well of that person again. You can tell his ex the truth and give her the choice to believe you or not. If he wants to be friends with you again, he has to tell everybody that he lied and that you didn't sleep with him. Though you must admit you kissed him, because there is no kind of!
2007-01-09 09:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you consider your best friend as that, the TELL her!! He was wrong for doing that and so were you. At any rate, honesty is the best policy. If your friend decide to make her your enemy, then i feel sorry for her in being so blind and she is heading for trouble. If her boyfriend kissed you and more then likley he will kiss another. Tell your friend to dump him and that there are many "fish in the sea". If you guys were "drunk" then, mabey you should say nothing and make sure it does not happen again.
2007-01-09 09:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told her what happened?? (everything) the only thing you can really do right now is own up to your mistake if you feel you have made one and tell the truth there is no point in hiding anything put it all on the table and hopefully people will get over it and move on within a couple weeks and hopefully the situation doesn't happen again.
2007-01-09 09:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Aronda L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the same thing has happened to me so all you have to do is get your "friend" (the one that has the boyfriend that you kissed) and get her to belive you then hang and pretty soon nobody will hate you any more well thats what i did and it worked!! so if it dosen't work for you then i am sorry. hang in there and they can't hate you for forever. rite?! well good luck and i hope you the best. and if you really need friends i'm there for you! because i'v been there.
2007-01-09 09:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to come clean and admit he lied on you about sleeping together. That is a pretty terrible thing for someone who likes you to do. If you do managew to salvage your friendship, I would have nothing to do with him. He is a liar and a dog.
2007-01-09 09:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him in private about this. I'm afraid you just should not "steal" him from your best friend. If you respect your best friend at all, you will not.
Tell this boy [in private] that you are sorry it even happened, and that you respect your friend too much to be with him or go any further.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 09:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by Carolina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋