I am not proud of it, but I had an affair last year. It was with a younger man,a type I had never been with before. I was flattered that he chose me, as wrong as it all was, but it was still all so very exciting. We had great,though yes, furtive times and I fell for him hard. I never had any intentions of leaving my husband, and I am so very very lucky it was never found out. My lover and I were "together"for almost 2 1/2 years and all during that time he dated off and on. I had been married for 9 years when it began, and I guess I was just bored,plus I was also starting to drink more. It was a really screwed up time in my life and I know I should be grateful that I have such a wonderful husband, but I can't help thinking about "him". Plus this is a small town and I can run into him as often as I want to. I have been trying to avoid the places,and have been doing okay, but today I saw his truck again, and I got the urge to call. I did'nt.
2007-01-09 09:29:31 · 15 answers · asked by desertskieswoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be happy that your husband didn't find out... because betrayal, hon, is the only real deal breaker in a marriage. Put your energies into your marriage, get some counseling, or if you now can't stand your husband, divorce him.... he deserves a faithful wife, as does any man, as does any woman.
2007-01-09 10:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe people like you have the guts to get on here and tell people what a dog you are.
Get over the younger lover simple because he already knows what kind of cheap tramp you are and if he had had any feelings for you he would not have been dating off and on. It's a shame your "wonderful" husband hasn't gotten wind of your screwing around on him...maybe he won't be so lucky to have you when you bring him home a disease or two
Get a life lady!
2007-01-09 17:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need something to do to occupy your time. You live in a small town and you are bored in your marriage. Maybe you and your husband need to take a vacation together. That sometimes sparks the marriage up again and your feelings for the other man will fade. Good Luck and dont cheat!!!
2007-01-09 17:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by arniemail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your husband. Why should you "be so grateful that you have such a wonderful husband" ??
If he was so wonderful, you wouldn't have gone in that direction in the first place.
Divorce him and get a man that really takes care of "ALL" of your needs. Forget the kid. He's over you.
2007-01-09 17:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a great job not calling. While I didn't sleep with my other guy, I still think about him a lot. Just keep busy. Find hobbies and start doing activities with your husband. I believe love never dies, but we can always love from afar and go on with our lives.
2007-01-09 17:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have these feelings and be happily married.Obviously you were not just bored of you are still having some kind of feelings for this guy,and it's not fair to your husband for you to continue your marriage with him while you fantasizing for another man behind his back.My sis in law went through this and it took her fling wishing her dead before she finally realized what a waste of time he was.Sounds to me that you are just an unfaithful wolf in sheeps clothing and your unfaithful itch is coming back.Thats where they get that saying"Once a cheater always a cheater"I feel for your husband and hope that he see's through you and your infadelity.
2007-01-09 17:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Chi-Chi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband heel help you, then you and young stud can be together!! Injoy your small town affair it could be the last you ever have?
2007-01-09 18:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about it. Focus on your family and husband. Stop thinking about it. Keep busy. Stop thinking about it. Avoid him. Stop thinking about it. Think how your husband would feel. Stop thinking about it. Think about how your husband would be torn up inside and have the hollow feeling. Stop thinking about it. Do something to make it up to your husband. Stop thinking about it. If there was something special that your ex did do it with your husband many many time. Stop thinking about it.
2007-01-09 17:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow' you need to really start focusing on your marriage before the sh*t hits the fan. I don’t think you will receive the counseling you need in here.
2007-01-09 18:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your focusing on the affair, when u need to focus on the marriage. it was all about your wants, and the need to have your ego boosted. your mind is on foolish things, and unfortunately won't learn a thing till u are the one who is hurt.
2007-01-09 18:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋