2007-01-09 09:22:38 · 43 answers · asked by bhbghgjbvmnbncvb 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I always get a kick out of the straight people who always answer "choice" as though any of them chose to be straight or have any idea what they're talking about. I think you should have to say whether you're gay or straight when you answer that question, which does come up several times a day--isn't there any way to consolidate these discussions or some shorthand way we can present our experiences and rebuttals?
Born gay, cupcake, knew it in grade school, didn't really recognize it until college. Had a girlfriend in high school, but a crush on my best friend. Friends with my girlfriend, but only physically attracted to my male friend. Didn't "decide" one day, "Hey, even though my girlfriend wants to have sex, I'll block that possibility out of my mind and yearn for my best friend instead just to drive straight people crazy!" Doesn't work that way.
What you do is a choice, of sorts (a sex drive is kind of an imperative, next to eating and sleeping), but not who you want to do it with. The "choice" business got started in the 60's when doctors were still calling homosexuality a mental illness and gays didn't want to be considered "sick" so they said it was a "chosen lifestyle" (like when you trip and say "I meant to do that!")--and have regretted it ever since.
2007-01-09 09:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To answer this question we don't need to resort to opinion and belief, we simply need to listen to the stories of those concerned and also the science.
The erroneous idea of homosexuality being a choice probably arises because in addition to exclusive homosexuals there are also bisexuals who feel an attraction to people of various* genders. This attraction can either be "serial" or "simultaneous". i.e. some bisexual people experience only straight attraction for a certain time and then at another time only gay attraction. Others experience bisexual attraction all the time.
Also some mainly homosexual people experience a minor straight attraction which means that they can, with great difficulty, pretend to be straight (vice versa for straights with minor gay attractions). This of course involves major denial and supression of their soul and is generally a pretty effective way to bring about mental illness (Read Mel White's book)
Kinsey's famous survey has shown clearly that the number of people with some bisexual attractions is large. This means that a mainly straight person with minor gay attractions will not suffer too much if they live straight. Which might lead some to the wrong conclusion that this is possible for everyone.
Of course some people also assume that there is such a thing as a "gay lifestyle" - meaning active participation in some kind of "decadent scene". Whether one lives decadently is a choice but this applies to straights as well. Most people, gay or straight, have normal lives.
* I don't say both genders because we know that that's a gross simplification :-)
2007-01-09 10:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by russiespice 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
People ARE born male or female. They are not born having sex. While some people may be attracted more to their own sex than to the opposite sex, the decision to follow a gay lifestyle is a choice. Genes only indicate a pre-disposition. Genes are not fate. For example, you may be genetically prone to diabetes but, if you are careful and don't eat too much sugar, you may never have diabetes. Life is about the choices you make.
2007-01-14 02:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound younger. These questions will probably be spoke back as you obtain studies. I believe my homosexual peers could say they had been born that manner, however I do have one buddy who has been married, had youngsters, bought divorced, lived with a lady in a homosexual dating and now could be again married to a person. So, I requested her, might she simply .... now not make up her brain, or what? and she or he mentioned.. "It's simply what I used to be within the temper for on the time." Basically, positioned extra effortlessly, nobody says you need to like most effective vanilla ice cream. If chocolate is what you crave, revel in that, however that does not imply you cannot in a while broaden a style for cherry or strawberry too. Does this aid you any?
2016-09-03 19:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself. I have always known that I was gay. I was having crushes on my best friends since I was in public school. I was far to young to have made a choice. It just seemed natural to me. I know that I was born this way .
2007-01-09 09:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by michael l 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Born gay. It is part of natures way of keeping the population down, that is why you find gay animals as well.
2007-01-12 18:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Yosuke A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's a choice. No one is born gay. You choose to be that way. Granted most of the time you can't really decide who you're interested in. But yeah, it is a choice. And no, I'M NOT GAY. But I know someone who is!
2007-01-09 09:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha W 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm gay, and I don't think it goes either way. I think certain events and people influence us, molding our lives. Then one day, we realize that we are attracted to some of the same sex.
If people are born gay, then I think that everyone is born gay, and can choose to be straight.
2007-01-09 09:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by red92fh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Gay people are born gay.
2007-01-15 04:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by fl_lopez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its a choice. But I have reason to believe that it can also be that you are born that way.
I have friends that have lived in VERY healthy relationships with both a mother and father and a christian up brining, and yet they still find themselves attracted to women, and don't know why.
Is a mystery.
2007-01-09 09:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋