My husband left me around three months ago and now he wants to get back together but he won't move in with me until he is ready he says that he doesn't want to rush it but he says that he loves me and we will be together But than I don't understand why he won't just move in. should I move on or should wait for him.
2007-01-09 09:21:18 · 23 answers · asked by tanya k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants a "booty call". He don't want the cow, just some milk. Move on.....he's not worth it!He's pulling your strings, playing on your loneliness. Don't give in! That way he can have his women on the side, and when he can't have them, he'll settle for you.You deserve better! Good Luck!!
2007-01-09 09:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did he leave?? Unless you get the reason for that resolved, you'd both be nuts.... Did he go off with another lady, and now decided it's over with her?? Oh great. He has betrayed your marriage. Think you ought to dig a bit deeper here before you live with him again..... he just may up and leave for a third lady..... there is an old saying --- if things get shaky, " cherchez la femme".... (Find the lady) In your case, I'd be really suspicious..... maybe he doesn't want to move in yet because he doesn't know how this thing with the other lady is going to work out and is keeping you as the "Jerk in Reserve". Do some research hon, and find out why he left in the first place.
2007-01-09 09:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why he left but where did he go and who has he been with? Can he be trusted. Are you both still in love with each other and there is no one else involved. I would tell him how you feel and let him tell you why he feels he is not ready. Honey be sure he's alone and not on the rebound from some one else. Think about this again and weigh your pro's and con's but talk and be open with him on this. If he gives you no answers then move on.
2007-01-09 09:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take it slow so many times people have rushed back only to be hurt all over again, date him and let him show you he is ready for the changes you and he have to make. Men are a bit childish they want their cake and eat it too and by not moving in with you he is free to act like he is single again marriage is a give and take relationship he seems to be doing all the taken especially your heart...
2007-01-09 09:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by valerie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back? You can date him, but no sex! If he does not want to live with you and give up his freedom then he should not get the benefits of being married. If you love him and want a future then try to work on the problems and see if there is a chance you two can make it work. If you have sex then he will most likely think he got the best of both worlds his freedom and his wife waiting at home by herself waiting to hop back into his bed anytime he feels the itch.
2007-01-09 09:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right about you not moving in together right away. It is a VERY BAD IDEA!! You need to resolve the issues that caused the two of you to split up in the first place, and jumping right back into things tends to cause these issues to get pushed to the back burner. As long as he is willing to be fully commited to your marriage (no dating other women), I would begin working on the marriage.
2007-01-09 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has another women on the side more than likely and doesn't want to break it off with her. He wants to eat his cake too. I say move on. I mean if he left once he'll leave again. And he'll continue to rip your heart out everytime. Husband and wife are supose to live together. Not apart and he's not acting like a husband. More like a friend with benifits. Sorry sweetie.
2007-01-09 09:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brandi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is keeping u on the line because if his relationship doesn't work out with her, he can always return to u. even if he does come back will u ever know for sure that it was because he loved u or had no where else to go. u will always wonder when he will do it again and break your heart all over again. just not worth investing again once there is a betrayal. not to mention what it does to our self esteem. personally i wouldn't hold my breath or believe anything he had to say, if he won't come back to u now what makes u think he will come back later. he is just keeping u there dangling this carrot in front of your nose, just enough to keep u interested, and hopeful.
2007-01-09 10:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he dating someone else? It would lead me to believe he doesn't want to move back in for a reason. Why did he move out? Giving your husband a second chance can be ideal and starting your 'dating' life over can help renew the relationship...like starting over. How do you feel about him moving in? Do you know in your heart that he really wants to work it out? Do you really want him to move back in or do you just want it to go back to how it was before he broke your heart? My advice: Take is slow. Go on dates, make him pick you up and pay for dinner. Don't let him sleep over until he moves back in. It will definately bring a spark back to the marriage.
2007-01-09 09:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by mysterious_qt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's wanting to do it right this time. Maybe he's like another answer says just wanting it both ways. I think the best thing you can do is ask him why. Look for honesty and sincerity let your heart make the judgment. In my personal experiance what ever broke you up in the first place will still be evident and who need their heart broken twice. Love is a strong emotion but time is its test. Give yourself time to understand and listen to your inner voice.
2007-01-09 09:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Hopless Romantic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋