I'm a married women and I went to give my son his pill at his dad's house and my ex- kissed me. lips and all I told him that I couldn't do this because i'm married i have not told my hubby yet.
ok what I'm asking here is should I tell him that i kissed my son's dad ?
2007-01-09 09:15:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there !!!!
I am not one to lie to my spouse, but let us put this into perspective
Did you kiss him back or did he just kiss you out of surprise? I am praying that you did not respond to him back, now girl, why did he get so close to you and kiss you like that? honey even thougth he was your husband, you are not married to him anymore, you are married to someone else, and he should understand that. period.
He should respect you, as his ex, and as a married woman.
If you tell your husband you may open pandoras box, he will not trust you or your ex anymore, and many issues could arise. If you did nothing to provoke this kiss, and you feel that your husband would understand the situation, more power to you. Just be cautious he does not go blind and get into trouble because of this.
This is a very delicate situation. I would have a heartfelt talk with the ex and let him know that this behaviour is not acceptable ever.
Marriage is a sacred union, not to be played with. As a woman you should know when a man is getting close to you with intentions, ( unless you were totally oblivious) and you should put a stop to it ASAP, never let it reach another level.
2007-01-09 09:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally up front people will say to tell your husband.
Those that are more liberated with every day life issues will say keep mum about it and don't put yourself in that situation again.
I say do what your heart tells you to do, your the one that is going to live with it. If it's eating at you, your going to have emotional problems dealing with this. Talk to your husband, don't apologise for it unless you feel the kiss could have been prevented in the beginning. Let him know how this has effected you and go from there. There will be two outcomes from this, one: he will want to go confront your Ex or two: he will just say to stay away from him in the future. If the kiss meant more to you than you realized maybe a good long look at your marriage is needed.
2007-01-09 09:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know the truth. Let him know you want no trouble. Ask your husband to go with you next time you have to go there but have him wait in the car if he can't control his temper. Also tell your husband it was the grosses thing your ex kissing you that you felt like spitting. Let your husband know you love him and would never think of going back to that. I am assuming your in love with your husband and not your ex. When you tell him let him know he kissed you not you kissed him.
2007-01-09 09:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean should you tell him "that I kissed my son's dad"? They key word here being "I". If it is as you stated, you did not kiss him, he kissed you, and it was not welcome. Yes, you should tell your husband, and you should have done it right away. Your ex could cause you all sorts of trouble with this, and I also assume your son saw it happen too. Tell your husband right away before he finds out second hand.
2007-01-09 09:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Would you rather him find out from you? or someone else?
Honesty is key in all relationships.
He won't be able to trust you if he finds out any other way.
The longer you wait the worse it'll be.
If he loves you he will understand.
You pushed your ex away, that not only says something good about your marriage but it also says you've got character. You should be proud of yourself.
Stay strong, telling him is the right thing to do.
Good Luck :)
2007-01-09 09:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by ItalianBella 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
look at what you wrote: "i went to give my sone his pill at his dad's house and my ex kissed me". now look at what you wrote at the bottom: "should i tell him that i kissed my son's dad?". you see what i'm getting at. who kissed who? if your ex did, then that's different. if YOU kissed him, then you have a problem. regardless of who kissed who, it should be brought your husbands attention only for the fact that marriages are based on honesty - even if this truth hurts and angers him. he may say that you are no longer to go over to your ex's house. but it is YOUR problem - not your husbands. what you need to do is put your foot down and tell your ex that this act is not tolorated. it is disrespecting your marriage, yourself and your husband. if you still have feelings for your ex - then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your life. it is hard and understandable, but if you don't have feelings for your ex, girl - put your foot down. if you want you current marriage a happy one - guard it with all that you have.
2007-01-09 09:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 07:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe that the foundation of every strong relationship is honesty and mutual trust.Tell your husband the entire episode but whatever you do dont narrate it as if you enjoyed it even if you did.Tell him that you felt obliged to let him know in case the ex got mean on you and made it something mischievious on your part.Best of luck.
2007-01-09 09:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by ytee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him your ex kissed you instead. And don't sit on this too long, then it will look "funny". I think you should tell right away b/c what if you ex trys to throw it in your hubby's face? Then it would look like you are/were trying to hide something.
2007-01-09 09:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpickle_98 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Based upon your question - technically HE kissed YOU. Keep a diary of the date & time it happened and get yourself tested for STDs after six months. If you come up negative then don't sweat it.
OR - Maybe you could file Assault charges.
2007-01-09 11:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Cameron S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋