I want him to be happy but I can't promise I will fall back in love with him ever. We have been through several sessions of counseling. I want to try everything for us to be happy. I could be happy with him not being in love with him but he wants more. I don't know what to do. I don't like hurting people but I feel we are killing each other.
2007-01-09 09:10:41 · 15 answers · asked by the works 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a divorce to save you BOTH a lot of heartache!
2007-01-09 09:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something over time has caused you to fall out of love. The question at hand is do you ever think you could love him again. Get rid of all distractions and think back to when you began feeling out of love.
I have spoken w/many counselors on issues such as this. If two people are together and one doesn't feel the togetherness and closeness it makes for an extremely long and rough road ahead. It is a day to day saga. Sometimes you love them, and sometimes you love them deep down, but you completely don't like them at the moment. Being in love for many is being happy. Don't short yourself by thinking you can be happy without loving the man. Spend some time communicating and trying to bring those feelings back if you want to hold on to the marriage. If you don't think it will work...I hate to say it but move on. Don't hang on just because it's secure or comfy.
2007-01-09 09:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by outlaw28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read that there are going to be times that you are not going to always love your spouse. At one point you did. Think back to the time you did and try to mimic those feelings, even the events. The love will eventually return again. A good marriage is never easy. You have to decide if what once was good is worth trying for.
2007-01-09 09:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by L G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either divorce him, or Try harder to make it work. Try and spice up the relationship, put some more romance into it. Visit some places you guys used to go when you first fell in love, or do some of the things you guys used to do together. Hopefully everything works out for you two. Good Luck.
2007-01-09 09:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you marry him in the first place, before you consider a divorce , write down somethings you love about him then write down what you don't like about yourself or would like to improve, best thing open the Bible and find out the importance of marriage and a woman of God s role. Seek Godly counsel first!
AFTER YOUWRITE THOS TYHINGS DO YOU COMPLETE EACH OTHER, REMEMBER FORGIVENESS IS A GOLDEN RULE OF A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP!
2007-01-09 09:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by xiavera a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. What I am doing is taking time away, keeping a journal (sounds childish) but works, and talking to other people. We are seperated right now, and have tried working on this- he doesn't want to divorce, but I'm still very confused about this situation... I'm taking time for me and doing what I like to do, and sure we grap dinner and bar hop occasionally, but what I am dong now is loving myself, and letting time take care of it... we married young and didnt have time to be individuals... I would be sure not to hide anything. Get the truth out there, and live your life... if it's meant to be, it'll happen.
2007-01-09 09:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best that you be honest with him and let him know. Remember that you are dealing with a person with feelings take that into consideration. Do you really want to be in a marriage that you are not into anymore? If so, it's best that you both go your separate ways....Let him know that you care, but the love is gone.
2007-01-09 09:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by lazykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation and I am just remaining so, for fear of hurting him. Also, I have nowhere to go and he knows it. I know exactly how you feel......lost and so wanting to be happy. I fell out of love with my husband because he is very disrespectful to me and is unwilling to meet my needs.
2007-01-09 09:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants more and you can't give it then you need to be clear about this and tell him and let him make his 'heart' up and decide what he wants and is willing to settle for. You might be surprised, he may choose to keep the relationship and if he does be sure he isn't going to hold this over your head later on. Make him choose or if you don't want it, then YOU choose.
2007-01-09 09:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you will never hear a man say that now you have lost interest in your husband that is something you need to get over you married him better or worse remember that
2007-01-09 10:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to either hurt him, or yourself. Doesn't sound as if you are too happy. You just have to do what is best for you.
2007-01-09 09:16:15 · answer #11 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋