After my husband lost his job it was decided that I would go back to work while he stayed at home for a while. It has been a very hard adjustment for us and our children since the rolls were completely reversed. Wives, how do you feel about this issue? My husband is having a ball, and I like getting out in the work field again, but not forever??
2007-01-09 09:03:54 · 9 answers · asked by buterbuny2 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
There is nothing wrong with your situation. It is totally awesome that one of you can stay home with the kids. This will benefit your kids more than you can know.
2007-01-09 09:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depending on the couple this can be an easy transition or a difficult one. In your case consider yourself a lucky wife and mother, since your husband is enjoying it and you can further your career and your kids will reap the rewards.
An at-home dad family is the best kept secret in America, because you already have an emotional attachment to your kids (due to your pregnancies and the initial time you spent with them after birth). It is now your husbands turn to step in and give them the attention they deserve.. This way when you are both home BOTH parents will develop an emotional attachment.. Your kids will grow up unbiased. They will come to realize that mommy's work and mommy's stay home and daddies work and daddies stay home.
After a few years you will find out how much you want to be home with your kids.. then you can and have a discussion with your husband about reversing your roles again.
Good luck and congratulations on having a husband who is willing to stay home with your kids!!
- Peter Baylies
- Men who change diapers change the world..
2007-01-11 19:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Peter B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife with future plans to have children and the possibility of being in the same boat as you, I can understand the inner conflict. From what I have seen and heard about bringing up a child, the bond with both parents is strong but babies and toddlers really need their Mums around. It might be hard for me as a career woman and no doubt I'll find it challenging but I'm hoping to be able to be at home with my kids for at least the 1st 3-4 years. It's great if the father can be at home too and important for kids to get attention from both parents. I'm hoping it can be pretty shared between my husband and I, to give each other a break. Deep down you know what the right thing to do is, trust your heart on it.
2007-01-09 17:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by getfit chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is I would not mind it at all because I would feel alot better with him being home than the kids at a babysitters.As long as he realizes he has to help out in the house you know what I meen not coming home and the house being a disaster then expecting you to clean it up after work,If you Both work Together this will be a Great Thing for you both and the kids.Good Luck
2007-01-09 17:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good to take turns now and then. That way both partners can completely appreciate how difficult the other's job is and the kids can have lots of quality time with each parent. It will be hard for a while, change always is. But you'll all adjust and be okay. And if you start to feel like you need to be with your kids and/or your husband gets restless, you can discuss switching again. Good luck!
2007-01-09 17:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am about to get my college degree. IF my husband were to do all of the housework, take care of the kids, and do the things that a stay at home mom is expected to do, I would think it is a good idea for him to stay at home.
Some women are better suited to being out in the workforce and some dads are better suited to being at home. There is no reason why it HAS to be the wife at home and the husband earning the income.
It has to be the decision that is right for you and your husband and your kids.
For anyone who doesn't agree, until you have walked a mile in this couple's shoes, don't get judgmental about it being wrong.
2007-01-09 17:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cute that he wants to stay home with the kids and help out around the house. If the situation works for the both of you there is no reason for it not to continue. Just make sure that you're making enough income to support you all comfortably or he may have to return to the work field with you to help out.
2007-01-09 17:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by liz04ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It started for us when my husband got a job working from home, then when he became disabled and our daughter moved back home with her son, he became the house husband, and its working for us. There are still some things he needs to work on, housework is not his strong suit, but a clean house isn't everything. And he is great with our grandson, getting him ready for school and picking him up and taking him to the park, things like that he missed out on when our kids were growing up.
2007-01-09 17:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband tells you that he stays home and takes care of the kids, but in reality, he locks the kids in a room, and then goes out with his girlfriend. He is soooooo lucky.
2007-01-09 17:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋