I think I might be in the very early stages of pregnancy and my boyfriend (not knowing my suspisions of being pregnant) has just found out that his mate is about to become a dad and told me that he thinks we should wait because we're not ready to have a baby yet, I really dont know what to do! Its too early to do a test yet and what if its positive when I actually do one? Does anyone know what to do?
2007-01-09 09:00:55 · 11 answers · asked by angelcakes 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I believe for a relationship to work, communication is key. Let him know your concerns. Perhaps he would like to be part of the testing process. Keeping this from him can cause damage. I am sure you like to know what's bothering him when you get the 'feeling' something IS bothering him, so, tell him what is on your mind.
2007-01-09 09:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Only Way To Find Out Is A Test.. But Just Wait Until You Missed A Period.. Then Take A Test! Dont Stress It Right Now.. That Is The Worst Thing You Can Do The Stress Makes Everything Worse.. Even Your Period
2007-01-09 17:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by EnjoyLife1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's good news and bad news. If he's in the boat with another new dad, he'll feel better, like he's got a kinsman in the fight. Also, you don't know for sure, so don't worry until there's a reason. The bad news is that you're the one driving this bus. If you are pregnant, you'll have to tell him. If he gave you the "we should wait" line, it's likely he's waiting for you to take the reins and set a course. If you suspect you are pregnant, find out for sure. Then approach it as a new mom would: take charge because you have to. Drive the bus. Good luck--
2007-01-09 17:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by KD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do if you are lmfao. I woudlnt say anythign to him right yet. Wait until you have a confirmed pregnancy test. If you arent even late for your period you could just be psyching yourself out and that sometiems can make you THINK you are having symptoms. So wait, take the tests if you are not pregnant you havent scared him and if you are you guys can deal with it then. Most young couples are not ready the first time they get pregnant but it gets easier over time. Good luck to you in whatever you want. :)
2007-01-09 17:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is sit him down and have a long hearted talk with him. if he feels that he doesn't want to become a dad yet, than explain to him that you are ready to become a mom. he'll hopefully understand. my husband was the same way and we talked about so many options, and he finally decided that he needed to step up to the plate and take responsibility for OUR actions and we were ready for a child. it was the greatest father's day weekend for him. no matter what he says though, he'll either accept it or he won't. if he loves you, give him time to think. good luck on your decisions
2007-01-09 17:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never to earliy to take a blood test.. talk to ur doctor and ask him for 1. find out wether u are or if your worrieing for nothing.. if it turns out u are.. sit down and talk to him.. tell him u understand his feelings on this.. but make sure he knows how u feel as well.. i think after the shock of becomeing a father wears off, and he gets use to the idea he will be delighted.
2007-01-09 17:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by angeliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test and then let him know what the results are. If you are, I think that he may be happy knowing that his friend is going through the same thing. It's not like you planned to do it this way. If you're not, at least you know what his thoughts are at this point in his life and you can be extra careful.
2007-01-09 17:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you BF is at all understanding, you shouldn't be afraid to tell him. One night when your alone and it's quite, just tell him you have something to tell him, but you are afraid that he will get upset. Tell him you think you may be pregnant and scared because what he had said the other day about waiting. He may be upset, but then you two can get through it together istead of alone.
2007-01-09 17:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him in passing that sometimes you just get pregnant and it happens, and that he should always be prepared for something like that. And then wait to take a test before you get him all hyped up.
2007-01-09 17:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't borrow trouble in assuming that you might be pregnant. You ought to try (hard as it sounds) to relax and just wait to see if your period comes and if you ARE pregnant, it's not like you did it to hurt your boyfriend or went against his wishes. He'll just have to buck up and be a big boy.
Good luck!!!!!
2007-01-09 17:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋