ive been with my husband 7 yrs. my problem is im having a hard time having a orgasam. its not him (trust me) this has been going on for about 2 yrs. i find the only way to get off is to hand pleasure my self during intercourse or have him do oral. i love him alot and want to make him feel hes doing a good job during sex. what is wrong with me? i dont think its stress related we always make time for each other and we have sex everyother day or so.
2007-01-09 08:55:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Try this as my wife and I have had similar issues and found out over 80% of women have a tough time reaching orgasm.
1. But a vibrator
2. Try a garterbelt and stockings, my wife says the sensation of sheer rht stockings helps overall.
then while orally pleasing him put the vibrator on your clitoris your husband will enjoy both visual excitement and the oral and you should probably reach orgasm quickly and then your husband can have inter course as well.
additionally various vaginal creme will help
but get used to the fact of not having a vaginal orgasm
and alwys tell your husband you love him
he'll feel fine trust me your both normal
2007-01-09 09:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make you extremely average. More than half of women cannot have orgasm's through intercourse. Most can only do it through direct stimulation of the clitoris. As a matter of fact you are ahead of the game. Most women under the age of 20-23 cannot orgasm at all, and still nearly 30% after 23 can't.
2007-01-09 09:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you used to have regular orgasms and aren't now? I'm not sure what could cause this. If you'd never had an orgasm through intercourse, then I wouldn't worry - many women find it difficult if not impossible to orgasm, so that's nothing unusual. If it takes self-manipulation or oral sex for you to orgasm, then what's the big deal? It doesn't mean you love him any less, or he's less of a man! Check with your doctor if you're concerned.
2007-01-09 09:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you taking any antidepressants as these can cause problems with orgasm? Other medicines can also have this effect.
Perhaps you need to spend longer on foreplay then start to have sex when you're extremely aroused and close to orgasm.
Extra lubrication - KY make a range of lubes which are quite good - although don't bother with the menthol one as it takes feeling away!
Get some sex toys and experiment together.
2007-01-09 09:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife has the same problem! she clearly enjoys herself during sex,but she can only seem to orgasm with self pleasure.i dont feel less of a man.also if it's the fact that he doesn't go long enough,he needs to try continue going till you do!he could also try more foreplay,with toys and heating K-Y gel,i seem to get better results from her when i do these things.good luck!
2007-01-09 09:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by BULL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's the problem, you have gotten into a routine.Try doing it only when you really need it, not him you.Then when you get what he has you will react.Don't you know how it feels to be away for a little while, then come home....there it is.
2007-01-09 09:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your hand until you are almost there and then slip him inside. Also try you being on top...you can control the movement that way.
2007-01-09 09:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?
2007-01-09 08:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♥jansport45♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋