can this ever happen? has it happened? does it happen?
2007-01-09 08:55:56 · 20 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe if you are doing all the giving and they are doing all the taking you could become resentful.
2007-01-09 08:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by BlueFish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The equity theory suggests that physical attractiveness is one reward in a relationship, but there are many different rewards and costs that appear over time. According to the equity theory, a relationship continues if the rewards are greater than the costs, however many people argue that this is not the case mainly due to the emotions involved.
Another theory about familiarity states that the characteristic which was interesting about an individual can become familiar and then become irritating. If you enjoy a persons sense of humor, you may get used to their humor, it becomes predictable to the point of irritation.
It happens all the time. Sometimes people get married and they realise they can't live the rest of their lives with a comedian or someone who has the same lame line all the time. I had a good time with a gal who had a habit of saying the same phrase all the time. It drove me nuts and I packed my stuff and left.
2007-01-09 17:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Janso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the surface that may sound like a silly question, but I'll say yes, in a sense you can.
If you have an overly romantic view of "love," where you build your relationship on feelings (which are inconstant and exaggerated at the start of relationship), fantasies, and an unrealistic vision of how wonderful, perfect, etc etc your partner is, you are setting yourself and your relationship up for failure.
No one can live up to that kind of fantasy, and once you start actually seeing the real person (who was there all along, you just made someone up and chose to see that instead), you are bound to be disappointed and feel you've "fallen out of love."
Of course, most people would say you were never really in love in the first place. It was just a giddy immature notion of love.
2007-01-09 17:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes and no!
Up to a point, if your love is hurting them you will try anything to stop loving them just to make them happy. Beyond this "point" is true love, which you cannot get rid of at all (except by dying)
2007-01-09 17:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by deanfriedmanfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about that but when my exwife went off with a kno*head she said I loved her too much and she wanted somebody who would love her the way she wanted loving.
Only a woman would find the logic in that because I certainly never did.
2007-01-09 17:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by tucksie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe it can... i have been in my relationship for 4 years.. i loved my partner so much when we first met.. i worshipped the ground he walked on.. everything he said which was for "my own good" i believed... said it made me a better person... till one day i realised it was a control issue .. when i began to realise this and mention it slowly over time he began to do anything to keep getting my attention... illness.. sympathy, depression etc even when things have been great.. no one has been as "ill" as he....... now got to the point where i dont miss him when he isnt around.... naturally its all my fault he tries to put me on a guilt trip... but hey so what i have now realised its not my problem... its his... he had my undevided love and attention.. but when i tried to be "myself" for one tiny second he went to peices...like i said.. not my problem.. so yes you can love someone soooo much that you stop loving them...BUT only because of a trigger factor
2007-01-09 17:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by tikketiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone so much that when they let you down it hurts FAR worse than if anyone else did, in effect making it so you don't love them anymore.
2007-01-09 16:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by razor9876 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe if the initial rush of love feels that strong, it might be more based on lust than anything else and fade? passion can feel a lot like love
2007-01-09 16:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by kittykat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, No, No, No! No, No, No and No!
This simply means you don't love that person. There's so much more I wanna say but I'm gonna leave this alone.
2007-01-09 17:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Guylemieux 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont think it should happen. if you are madly in love with someone you dont just fall out of love. it defeats the purpose of love.
2007-01-09 17:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋