My husband and I are having problems.....?

Question

We are going to be having a baby in about 4 months and i feel like our relationship isnt very good. This is the problem that I see....we both work full-time, I cook meals, clean the house (he helps a little but only when I tell him to and tell him exactly what i want done) i do all the financial work, budget, plan the meals and grocery shop. I feel like I do everything. When ever i try telling him this he gets very upset and says he isjust stupid peice of crap who does nothing! then we get in huge fights and i cant handle it anymore. also he is not romantic at all! i tell him all the time that i would love it if he did something nice for me or gave me a surprise. but he just says he "cant think of anything" he uses that phrase a lot, like what to have for dinner " i cant think of anything" ahhh I am so frustrated please help!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I wish I had a magic solution for you. My situation is almost the same, minus the baby. I am already so exhausted all of the time I couldn't imagine trying to do everything and care for a new baby. My fiancee is exactly the same. The only thing that works for me is to leave him a note telling him what needs to be done. Otherwise, forget it. I have sat down and tried to talk to him about how exhausted I am, and that I need help carrying the load, I have told him their is more on my shoulders than I can handle and broke down crying. Nothing works but us winding up in a fight because my patience wears out. Basically I have to biatch at him or its hopeless. I blame all of the moms out there that carry their boys to adulthood, still raising them like it was 1950. If you have a son, be sure to raise him to do the laundry, the dishes, teach him to pay bills and make a grocery list. Someday this has to change with all of us women out here working full time jobs. We aren't stay at home moms anymore and we need some support guys!

Answer 3

You should sit down with him and have a serious talk about why he is acting like this ask him if he is unhappy and reasure him that you love him and really want to be with him and ask him if there is anything he needs you to do to help make him a little happier than tell him what you need like help around the house and etc.. if he is this lazy now and you don't do anything about it now he will just keep being lazy and when that baby comes you will get very unhappy because not only will you have all the house work to do but also you will have a little one that needs you. Good luck

Answer 4

Don't want to discourage you when you are looking for comfort, but, I feel that's a sign he is losing some interest or maybe he has other thoughts in his mind. My husband did exactly the same to me when he had other interests behind my back, which resulted into a breakup.He would not even take a walk with me or go to dinner or movies without making all sorts of excuses. Keep a look out for unusual behaviour, like keeping his mobile out of your sight, too much computer, mood swings etc. Hope I'm wrong but it is a possabilty worth keeping in mind. Good luck

Answer 5

Well it's time for some good hard lessons on sharing responsibilities in the home, stop cooking meals for hI'm, let him learn it's help with meals or go hungry, want clean clothes, wash them yourself,want food to eat, go to the grocery store yourself im pregnant. and it;s too hard on me.
Don't like a dirty dusty house you clean it for once I didn't get married to be a maid.
Some guys have to learn the hard way that when they are 50% the cause of a child coming , they have some responsibilities arund the home also.
I (we) had three children. I had to help clean, do the laundry, go shopping and help do all other things around the home. It certainly did not kill me either.
My wife would have kicked my arz out the door if i did not share.
get gutsy and give him some hell. He needs it..

Answer 6

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Answer 7

wow... it sounds like your mentioning my husband. That was exctly how my husband use to be. For me it took prayer, conversating and even a night when i packed my four children and left. Thats was it really took. He thought I was kidding, it was very hard, since i had no job, I was in college and i had 4 kids to think about, but once i left he reached me and asked why i left, thats when he finally realized that he was the cause. I am not saying it's going to work, but it did for me. My situation happened 2 yrs ago, we just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary, a new baby and are very happy. Please dream, cuz dreams do come true, if that fails, then PRAY!! That works better.

Answer 8

this is pretty badand if u two are married i guess u r not kids ... but!1 he is acting like a little boy! he needs to grow up! u do everything and he seems to not give a **** it looks well u need to sit his *** down and tell him in the eyes that if he does not stop things will get wors and maby this marriage will not work! tell him that and see if he opens his eyes and says something u wanna hear are talks back u really need beter thin this and having ababy when all of this is going on is not!!!!!!!! a good thing so u need to talk to him tell him he needs to get his **** straight r else!! befor it gets wors after the baby and as years go bye it will be like u never knew him and u live with him..

Answer 9

Well sugar, thing are going to change when baby gets here. He will have to help around the house, there's no way you can do it all by yourself. I'm not blaming you, but just possibly, your baby hormones are kicking and things are bothering you more than normal. But that doesn't excuse him either. My husband gets overwhelmed every time we have another baby because it is another person for him to provide for. Maybe your husband is overwhelmed too. Good luck!

Answer 10

I would just worry about yourself, quit cooking meals and if you do cook dont do the dishes. For real, get yourself something to eat like fast food or make yourself a sandwich or soup and let him fend for himself- you could also threaten to take bills out of your name and he would have to get them back in his name and be fully responsible for them. Those are your only options unless you want to continue to be unhappy with him or leave him. Good Luck its not easy but he may see things differently if you change his dependance on you.