i am a student studying medicine in the second year of college, I have a brother elder from me by two years, he failed the first year of college and i entered school one year earlier so we are in the same year and it happened to be in the same college also.
he is a lazy person who does'nt care for his future any more, he doesnt study at all even looking at any book, it started when he was in the first year in college inspite that he is very smart and used to be a star student, he does'nt study at all ,he wants to depend on me in the exams by sitting near me and making me giving him all the answers, today we had an anatomy exam and he didnt study anything, he made me confused in the exam by keeping on to ask me to answer him, i didnt answer with concentration and i think i made mistakes, the investigators took notice that we are talking, he threatens me that he will leave the exam if i didnt answer to him and i am forced to it because my parents could have a shock if he failed again...
2007-01-09 08:45:30 · 10 answers · asked by 123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it bothers you so much, talk to your parents and tell them what's goin on. No reason for you to cheat to help him pass college. You spend money to go to school to learn and better yourself; if he's not willing to put the time and effort into it, he's waiting big money and won't get anything out of it. If you get caught cheating liek that, you could both risk possibly being tossed out.
I realise he's your brother and you feel obligated to help him, even though he is threatening you, but you also have an obligation to yourself and that is to do the best you can so you can have a good life. You're not doing the best you can if you're not fully concentrating on your own work.
Talk to your parents and your brother and just be honest about everything going on. Good luck.
2007-01-09 08:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you change your schedule or enroll in different classes? Do your parents know this is happening? If they know he is doing this and it could, in turn, cause you to be held back either by being a disruption to you or by getting in trouble, and they are not equally concerned for *your* welfare.... maybe you have a bigger problem than you think. It's time to make a decision for your future as an adult that may be very difficult - but if you're going into medicine, I have to believe this will not be the first tough decision you'll face in life. Think about your future and stop worrying so much about trying to "save" your brother.
2007-01-09 08:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Dorkness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
now honestly, are you truly forced to help him cheat? no. he is in control of his destiny as well as you are of yours. he's taking the easy road in life and will more than likely end up as a nothing in the world if he keeps up what he's doing. my advice for you is that you need to put your foot down. no one in the world gives two shits of care if you fail or not - other than you. i'm sure your parents want the best for you. it's not your responsibility to make sure your brother passes his classes or not. it's not respectful of you to help him cheat just because he threatens to leave the exam. if he does it again, let him. it's his life and he can **** it up if he wants to. your parents are grown up enough and will deal with him. all you need to worry about is YOU passing. not him.
2007-01-09 08:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will never learn to stand on his own if you keep helping him. If he threatens to leave the exam, let him.
His change in behavior suggests that something has changed in his life. Is he doing drugs or drinking? I
2007-01-09 08:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice, don't give him any attention for this behavior. If he's going to fail it's not because of you, it's because of him. You can't write his papers for him, or take the exact same classes he's taking, or sit in during the GREs, or go to his job interviews for him. He needs to figure out why he's so down in his life, that's the only real solution.
2007-01-09 08:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for his bad choices. Tell him you are not going to help him anymore and that he needs to study on his own. Don't sit near him druing exams. In many schools, YOU could get expelled for helping him cheat.
2007-01-09 08:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Brad J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure to never have classes with him anymore. Tell him you are not going to be his doormat and get kicked out for cheating. If you don't stand up for yourself you'll be in the same boat as him, a loser with no future.
2007-01-09 08:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is out of line and you won't let him ruin your future as well as his own. Tell your parents what he is doing too.
2007-01-09 08:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Maddie A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your brother failing have to do with you???? He is grown, tell him to grow up!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 08:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Gems 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents that he is doing this, dont let him bring you down too
2007-01-09 08:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by phenom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋