Such an attitude that would help you maintain your cool even amidst seemingly unfavorable circumstances.
2007-01-09 08:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by Malcom M 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Universal tip to Positive attitudes:
"Knowing and truly understanding" that everything, and I mean everything can be worked in a way to reach the goal...of a valuable lesson learned.
(We grow wiser, due to the experience. If you look hard enough to find it.)
Then, we catch the bug and start looking for the lesson from the get-go, and the situations are no longer the focus...just that valuable lesson to be learned.
( We're thankful for the chance to learn. )
2007-01-09 10:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by dearreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't easy to do. It is something that initially you will have to make a concious effort to do. After a while it will become 2nd nature.
I've been told countless times in the past year that I have such a positive and upbeat attitude about life. At times I'll just smile and say YEP! other times, I will take the time to tell them about the year I'd just as soon forget. And I get this look and then the inevitable question: How do you do it?
I usually tell them that I had some choices to make on a particular day that my world imploded. I could have been angry at my God, the world and everyone and thing in it but, I looked deep in myself and drew on some unknown strength.
I kept going and I made a concious effort to be positive or else I probably would be in the bottle by now.
2007-01-09 08:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Debra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always maintain your integrity.
Always do your personal best.
Don't be presumptuous.
Don't take anything personally.
These are what I remember from a book I think titled, The Four Agreements. These were the basic premises the author wrote about. He, of course, expounded on these. What it meant to me in regards to integrity: A person can lose a lot of things, but when they lose their integrity they lose respect and credibility. It was also being grounded in my faith and a sincere desire to treat people with dignity and respect.
Doing your best: this has to do with always doing one's personal best. The author pointed out that this changes with circumstances. For example, your "best" on a good day will be better than your "best" if you are ill. For me it also pointed to the need to quit ranking myself with others. There will always be someone "better" and if I can get past that I have a better chance to reach my own potential. I can concentrate on doing what I do best rather than constantly comparing myself to someone else.
Don't presume anything. I still have the problem of getting ahead of things--or myself, and of expecting from people what seems obvious to me they would do. It helps me avoid "reading into" something that isn't there. It often helps me look for the best in something or someone.
Don't take anything personally. One point the author made was most people are interested in themselves. They can experience a sense of power, or perverse joy, if they can "push your buttons." It's not easy to stay cool under adverse conditions. When I control my response and use these "tools" in combination with each other I seem to keep a more positive attitude. Oh, yes---humor! Absolutely! Never at the expense of another--there's plenty of things to laugh about!
2007-01-09 11:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by youngatheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No joke. Find a church. Test all the ones that appeal to you. Then read the New Testament FOR YOURSELF!! You have to see if they know what Jesus was even hinting at!! The Holy Spirit is alive. I never found anything else to change my negative attitude since I inherited it from a long line on one side. I read all the self-help sections for too many years. Did squat. Find a positive group of people and hide among them until you turn positive from exposure. @8=)
2007-01-09 08:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to keep in mind one very important thing: that whatever negative circumstances you are in, that either it is not about you and is a result of whomever is creating the negativity's inability to deal with situations or issues, or that it is a powerful learning opportunity that if handled properly will make you a better person once you get through it.
2007-01-09 08:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Take a deep breath before and after you think negatively and correct it right away
2. Compare with people less fortune than you rather than compare with people who are way better than you.
3. Stop complaining less, be thankful all the time
4. Pray a lot!
2007-01-09 08:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gotta be strong man, don't let little things get to you. Find fun things to do, have a social life.
2007-01-09 08:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Tr0nik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never judge anyone. Always treat others the way you would like to be treated.
2007-01-09 08:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are under stress don't be where you are, think of awesome time you have/would love to experience while keeping your cool
2007-01-09 08:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by hennessy1336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋