ok....a question about my son and paternal rights?

Question

8 yrs ago I had my son. His father left me when I was 7 months pregnant. He had gotten a minor pregnant as well and chose to be with her.
Since then I have raised my son and done an excellent job of it. My son knows one man as his father (my ex who I met when my son was 2 months old) He raised him and was everything a father would be. So my kid doesnt know any different.
Meanwhile while I am taking care of my son...his "real" father is in and out of jail for all kinds of stuff. He has never in 8 yrs contacted me wanting to see my son or anything. His name isnt on the Birth certificate and he has never payed child support. I had a little scare about 2 years ago when some girl called me saying this guy was wanting to be in my sons life. But nothing ever came of it because he went back to jail.
Recently he was released again and I am worried he is going to try to bother us.
what chances does he have in WV for rights at this point? Isnt it abandonment and arent I owed back support

He was very abusive mentally and physically when we were together. He was in jail for drugs and robbery. Welfare never went after him for support because a psychologist deemed him a hazzard to me and my son...I dont want anything from him...except termination of his rights so my son can be adopted by my fiance

Answer 1

Get an attorney specializing in family law. I started typing to explain but there just isn't enough room on here to explain all the legal red tape you'll have to go through to get what you want. The process isn't nearly as scary as you may think.

Answer 2

Ultimately you cannot deny a paternal parent the right to his child without the court being involved - no matter what the situation is

You should make sure you are not listed or have contact with anyone he may know

He probably will not want anything to do with you, bottom line you need to do whats best for you and your son. If he does contact you. You would talk to an attorney and get paper worked filed to protect you and your son.

Despite how much you may despise him, you need to also be prepared at some point in time your child may want to know who his father is.

It is never easy.

Good Luck
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Answer 3

You need to have documentation to support everything you say and you need to save your money. When he does come looking for some parental rights, you need to have a good lawyer to shut him down. This is the way it is done - battle in the courtroom.

Have every dirty deed he has done backed by documentation of some sort. It will get hairy, however, if your son wants to "see and meet" his real daddy - this will certainly happen at some point in his life. Don't argue one way or the other with him, just show him the documentation and when he gets old enough, he will have to choose for himself.

Sorry but life is tough. Good luck.

By the way, no matter how bad someone is, sometimes there is a sliver of good in them that allows at least a truce when it comes to the offspring. Maybe you can exploit this if some good in him exists.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

If his name is not on the birth certificate he has to prove he is the father first before he can do anything. I dont know what state you are in but he would probably have to get a court order against you to have a paternity test done.

Answer 6

Since he is not on the birth certificate, unless he demands and pays for a dna test that proves his paternity, he has no rights. In addition, you can take out a restraining order on him. Forget about child support! Child Protective Services will help you!

Answer 7

I'd definitely focus on getting his rights terminated. If I understand it correctly, the courts will send out a letter and if its returned you are obligated to attempt to find him by placing an ad in the paper (which I'm sure he doesn't read). If he still doesn't respond then his rights can legally be terminated. Go that route, your son doesn't need any bad influences in his life.

Answer 8

well he shouldnt have any rights you can try to get a restraining order on him if he tries to come around. but one day you will have to tell your son the truth not right now because he is too young but he the father does try to come back dont let him be a strong woman and protect your child from him
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Answer 9

this is not common to do - in actuality this is each youngster's authentic to be supported with the aid of the two mothers and dads, and the state won't permit you "make a deal" to interchange custody for baby help. on account that baby help for each guy or woman gets paid with the aid of the non-custodial parent to the state and then from the state to the custodial parent, this is very nearly impossible to artwork around exceedingly if he has any arrears, etc. the only undertaking you're able to do is report for finished custody, you will bypass with the aid of mediation,etc. and if he in simple terms undeniable does not ensue to that or the courtroom date you have the main suitable shot at getting finished custody. i'm undecided in case you may drop baby help or not - it relatively relies upon on in case you have already got a baby help order or not and if the DCSS is already in touch. you will desire to tell the choose which you're sick of attempting to squeeze blood from a turnip and which you in simple terms elect it dropped for now and notice the way it is going.

Answer 10

There is far too much involved in this case for you to rely on any advise we can give. My suggestion is that you contact an attorney specializing in family law ASAP.