her operation tomorrow. i am going to speak to her before hand. What do i say? 'dont worry everything will be fine'. that isn't good enough. what would u say?
2007-01-09 08:10:49 · 18 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get her a stuffed animal that can have an "operation" too. I had major surgery on my knee at 17 and the nurses let me hold onto the teddy bear I was given until the anesthesia kicked in and I never noticed when they took it. And when I woke up, they had wrapped up the left knee of my teddy bear with a bunch of gauze to match mine. I know it sounds silly, especially if your friend isn't a teenager anymore, but my grandparents still take stuffed animals in with them when they have surgeries.
Lying in that bed just waiting and anticipating the time for surgery to come is really scary, and you feel really alone, even if there's a roomful of people with you. You're the only one in that bed and it's isolated. A stuffed animal to hold on to gives you a sense of comfort and it's something to cling to when you're nervous right before. I'm 26 and if I ever have to have a surgery again, I'd want another stuffed animal.
2007-01-09 08:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by A W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww I wish you all the best on Thursday and I am sure you will be fine. It is good that you have support from your partner, GP and counselling. You will need plenty of rest once you have had the operation. It is hard to go into hospital with your anxiety and panic attacks. It's not nice and the mind tends to run away with out thoughts. I know it's hard but try to take each stage a step at a time. Have you tried talking to your doctor, counsellor or staff at the hospital about your concerns. I think you need as much reassurance from the medical profession as you can get. Your partner sounds like he is lovely and is trying support you as much as he can, which is good. Do you have anyone who can go with you to the hospital to keep you company as much as possible? If you do it may help you a lot. Please don't feel alone. I will be thinking about you on Thursday. Big Hugs :-)))
2016-05-22 23:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her as a friend, or otherwise, the words will come naturally to you. Don't be nervous about you'll say. Speak from your heart. Assuring her that you will be there for her, regardless of the outcome, should be a great comfort to her. Offer to take care of some of her day to day routine. Walk the dog, feed the fish, etc. Go to her place and make it as easy for her to get to evereything she needs, if she will be recover/rehab there. I am speaking to a new close friend who is having surgery this week so I can empathize with you. True love and emotions will lead you. I wish her the best of luck. SurfX
2007-01-09 08:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by surfX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her anything. I would ask is she ok, or how is she feeling and offer reassurance if you think she is worried.
Try to look on the positive side re the operation making her well / saving her life.
It is difficult for people to advise without knowing a bit more detail the main thing is to give her reassurance and support.
Try to be positive and even jolly if appropriate.
The focus should be on how she is feeling and coping.
2007-01-09 08:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck hunny ill be waiting for you- if u will be there, and your thinking of her but keep reiterating to her not too worry and apart from that talk about her and her feelings on it just ask how she is and stuff like that!!! after all its her going thru it not anyone else!
When she comes out keep asking if theres any help she needs or anything she wants but not to the point of annoyance, be careful there!
If she says im fine or ok and doesnt seem her usual self tell her you can see somethings worrying her and say what is it if she still says nothing then change the mood so ur talking about something really light hearted
i.e something funny on tv or something funny your pet or your child did!!!
good luck to you and ur friend
2007-01-09 08:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by itsmeeeeeeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will be praying for her during the operation and will see her after the surgery is over.
2007-01-09 08:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about:
Good Luck!
I'll be praying for you.
I'll be thinking of you.
I'll come visit you tomorrow.
You can't say everything will be fine, since you can't know that.... but you can be a friend and think about what you'd like to hear if it were you instead of her.
2007-01-09 08:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"What movie do you want to see when you the doctors release you?" It shows you're very optimistic about the future and it's a light and happy question that will remind her that there are good times to come!
2007-01-09 08:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her a few jokes to put her at ease,just your presences will let her know that you care and are thinking of her.
Hope all goes well!
2007-01-09 08:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u`ll be wiv her every step of the way. sometimes actions speak louder than words too
2007-01-10 09:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by groundhog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋