My husband and I are about to start TTC for our first child. I want to be a mom, and have a child with my husband.....but I AM SCARED. I'm scared of the pain of labor, of being a good mom, of all the changes our life will go through when I become pregnant and when the baby is here. One minute I feel so ready, and then sometimes I wonder if I really am. Has anyone gone through and did you have children or change your mind and why?
2007-01-09 08:05:09 · 15 answers · asked by Just Me 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It's perfectly normal to have all the feelings you're having. It just means you are mature enough to consider all the aspects of having a child and not romanticizing about being a mom. Children are a lot of work, and you have the responsibility of this person until they are... well, always lol. I had an easy pregnancy and an easy labor, and my son is now 22 and is a healthy, respectable man. We can only do the best we can, and by asking all these questions of yourself now means you will probably be a great mom. Good luck with your decision.
2007-01-09 08:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant when I was 19, I was so scared and worried just like you. What helped a lot was I checked out some books from the library that told me what to expect in the next months and at the hospital when I went into labor. As far as the pain, I got an epidural shot which numbs you so you don't feel any pain. My delivery was a breeze. Also, you should tell your doctor every concern you have. Having a baby will change your life, you will have this new person to love. My daughter is 12 now and she tells me she loves me every day, and we talk and laugh together. Enjoy your baby.
2007-01-09 08:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by susan9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only about a million times. What you are experiencing is normal. When i was in nursing school, I also thought maybe this wasn't for me...thought maybe I'd accidentally kill someone!!! :) But there are so many books out there to read, and believe it or not, being a new Mom, while scary, is an awesome feeling...and remember, you're not alone. You've got a husband and between the two of you, you'll figure it out.
I won't lie to you and tell you there is no pain of childbirth....won't do that. But there is medication to make it easier, and when it's all over and they put that sweet little bundle in your arms, you literally do forget what the pain felt like. When you're ready, you'll know it!
2007-01-09 08:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom, nothing can fully prepare you for being a parent. What you are experiencing is normal. When you have your baby, maternal instincts take over and you just seem to know what to do. Labor isn't so bad, especially if you have an epidural (I felt nothing more than like I had to take a really big poo when I had my baby.) Just be sure that you husband will be supportive and not get jealous when the baby comes. Good luck.
2007-01-09 08:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that. I initially didn't want children, but as time passed I decided I did. When we started trying I thought it would take months, but I was pregnant within the first month! It was overwhelming and I would go from high with excitement to depressed and scared. But now that I'm almost there(I'm 29 weeks) I am overjoyed each time she moves and I can't wait to meet this little person who is a creation of both me and my husband. As far as labor goes, yeah, I'm scared, but look at all the people in the world...if it was horrible then I don't think there would be so many people, Plus after you see your baby it will all be worth it. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-09 08:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes having a baby can be very scary. I feared the pain the most and if the baby would be healthy. But to me it seemed to go easier if I just kinda went with the flow instead of trying to plan out every little thing. I never went to birthing classes cause I figured women had been doing this for a long time and besides I already knew how to scream, LOL, Nobody had to teach me that. BUt it was scary and after the baby was here. She was my pride and joy and still is to this day. I would gladly go though the pain of labor all over for her. ANd you will feel the same way after yur baby gets here. Its scary but it is also one the greats moments in your life. Good Luck
2007-01-09 08:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lil lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every potential parent freaks out. That's good. It means you're taking it seriously.
Having children kinda changes your mind. You go through it a day at a time. Fortunately, they come out as newborns, not teenagers, so you both get to learn the ropes as you go along. You still freak out about things: developmental milestones, first day of school, first field trip, first essay, first date...but it all comes as it's ready to come, not in one big blob. So you'll be ready for each new step.
And: labor? It lasts as long as it lasts. Yes, there are some good pain meds out there now, epidurals and saddle blocks, but labor lasts what? a couple of hours, a day, in the rest of your life? Not that I recommend going into labor on a weekly basis or anything, but in the grand scheme of things, it's a blip on the radar of an entire, blessed life with your child. Yes, it hurts, and you want to kill everyone in the room with you, but the first time your child tells you, "I love you" makes you realize that labor isn't as big a deal as it seems while you're pregnant.
2007-01-09 08:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal to be scared. I rememer being just as terrified as you. Just remember, you can have an epidural during childbirth, so don't worry about the pain and, honestly, by the last month you are so ready to have that baby that you don't even worry about the pain anymore!! As far as being a good mom, you will be fine. Read a lot to prepare yourself and trust your instincts. You'll do great! Best wishes.
2007-01-09 08:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know of anyone who doesn't think of these things....
labor isn't that bad considering what you get out of it..and they do have these wonderful things now called EPIDURALS....if you are a good person, yo uwill be a good mom...once the baby gets here...nothing else matters more to you that him/her.
You will definitely be in for some life changes....the baby will be the center of your and hubby's universe....you will be totally exhausted for a while and hubby won't understand (even though he says he does)...accept all the help that is offered, no matter how hard it is to accept it.
2007-01-09 08:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to be scared of its the most amazing thing u will ever go through. ya labor is painful but when u see your baby all the pain goes away and you wont regret it for the world. and being a mother comes so naturally weather your ready or not!
2007-01-09 08:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋