I recently paid for a session with a professional dominatrix. While I won't go into great detail about this session, it was something that I have wanted to experience for a long time and I knew that my wife would not actively participate at home. While I feel very guilty over doing this behind my wife's back, I am wondering if the women out there would consider this as a form of cheating. There was no intercourse or sexual favors exchanged.
2007-01-09 07:56:47 · 31 answers · asked by John D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like cheating to me
how would you feel if your wife spent time with someone and it was sexual in nature even if there was no sex
2007-01-09 08:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was wondering why you won't go into great detail about this session??? again how can i answer your question if you don't explain the whole story? And I think you did cheat on your wife behind her back not because plm with wife in bed. Just that you always waiting or/and wanted to do soemthing. So the Detail you won't discloser it then means you have done something you should never do behind ur wife's back.
You saying there is no intercourse or sexual favors exchanged????? again you won't go into great detail about this session... you have done something in that professional dominatrix. sorry to say u make the choice not to explain full details and you did have intercourse and/or sexual favors exchanged.
wish you luck.
2007-01-09 08:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating!! I don't know the specifics but you were with another woman in a sexual way/dominatrix is a form of sexuality. If you feel guilty, it's because you did something you knew you shouldn't have done. Have you ever talked to your wife about doing this from her to you. You don't know until you ask.
2007-01-09 08:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by cottontail34@sbcglobal.net 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are built on mutual trust.
You pose a difficult conundrum. If it was me, then I would want to know, preferably beforehand. Anything less, then you are keeping secrets.
That said, we all do things that we regret and do not wish to share, even with a loved one. If it is a one-off, then, unless your guilt gets the better of you, let sleeping dogs lie.
On the other hand, if you wish to repeat the experience, which I suspect is the case (and the real reason for your question), hen you ought to discuss it with your wife. If you fear "the worst", then you could test the water by not letting on that the forthcoming visit would not be your first encounter.
One last point; why pay? I am sure that there are a number on Yahoo Answers willing to "help" you for nothing, other than the experience that they would feel (which is quite different from yours!)
2007-01-13 07:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man but I wanted to answer anyway. I can understand your dilema in this situation. My question is did you ever reveal this part of yourself to your wife? It may be unfair if your just assuming she would not do some of this with you. You may be right and she may not but her reaction would be a good judge of your relationship. Here's what I am saying I think its wrong to do something behind your partners back. If this is what you need and are into and she is totally not into it then she should either allow you to experience this with someone else perhaps with certain boundaries such as no sex or try to provide this experience for you herself. If she doesn't want to do either then you have a decision to make as to how important this is to you and if your wife is the right partner for you but I think doing something like this without first trying to talk to your wife about it is not a good thing.
2007-01-09 08:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife did something that turned her on behind your back, and even though no sexual favors were exchanged, would you think it was cheating? Come on people.. do unto others..
2007-01-09 08:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a married woman and I would consider that cheating. I would be heartbroken if I found out my husband did something like that. My suggestion to you is to never burden your wife with what you have done. You did something bad and now you have to live with it. Don't tell your wife, she doesn't need to know!
2007-01-09 08:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but any form of sneaking around behind your wife's back is cheating in my book. I would have much rather known and let my husband do it than him sneaking out to do it. Next time, ask!
2007-01-09 08:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Heather F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you had to do something and hide it from your wife then it's wrong. If it's not a form of cheating then tell your wife about it.
2007-01-09 08:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Even if you didn't have sex or sexual contact, your wife is going to view it as something you shared with another woman and that is cheating!!
2007-01-09 08:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, even though no sexual intercouse happened it was a sexual act. Your cravings for it is not uncommon and maybe you should brooch the subject with your wife about role playing in the bedroom. Who knows she may get into it.
2007-01-09 08:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋