2007-01-09 07:48:51 · 15 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is not all about sex he is a bit romantic
2007-01-09 07:54:01 · update #1
In my case it has been a waste of time. I have tried to be a good wife and I have tried to make him happy. After 10 years I have had enough. He is not a happy person. My husband is very angry and bitter and I'm tired of it. It has affected my health and it is hurting our kids. I wish he would just leave.,
2007-01-09 07:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is totally old school but my husband LOVES it! I work from home, so I make sure the house is clean and I am home when he gets back from work. And if dinner is ready or at least started, he's a happy man! If his day was particularly grueling, I'll give him a back rub. Some people might think this is too house wife, but I couldn't care less! I love my husband and just like I like to be doted on, so does he! Leaving little notes or sending him emails during the day that say I love you are nice too. Also let him know you appreciate him and all he does for you and your family!
2007-01-09 15:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the past I would have made comments about sex. But for me somethings that my wife does that I appriciate so much is if I come home late from work, after her and the kids have eaten, she saves a plate of food for me, and reheats it so I can have a hot meal. Or sometimes she makes the kids something and when I get home makes something for her and I. Also there have been times when she rubs my back and shoulders, and that she just listens even if what I am telling her is boring to her. The fact that she listens means alot to me, and I appriciate it.
Just do those little things, some people don't think us guys notice but we do.
Tell him that you love him, and treat him like a king. Let him know you think he's special and that you appriciate him.
2007-01-09 16:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about best wife ever.But I know I am a very good wife and here are a few things I do to make my hubby of 15 years happy.
1. I am always there when he needs me.
2. Tell him how much I love him all the time.
3. I compliment him ofter.(It makes them feel good to hear what a stud they are).
4.I take excellent care of our home and son.
5. I let him know how much I appreciate all of the things he does for our family.
6.I text little love notes to him to perk him up during his work day.
7.I make sure his lunch is ready for him to take with him when he leaves for work in the morning.
8. I make sure he has a hot meal waiting for him when he gets home.
9. I make an effort to take interest in his hobbies.
10.And I try to be a good lover and friend.
2007-01-09 16:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine was single for many years before me and he still loves that I do things for him like setting up the coffee pot so that when he wakes up he can just push the button. I make him diabetic desserts, breads and cookies that he loves. I always kiss him goodbye when I go off to work in the morning, while he's still asleep. I run his bath in the evenings, light candles and prepare him a snack so that he can go and have a long hot soak and read for awhile. I make sure to always make him home-cooked meals.
He does so much for me and is very tender with my heart. I love to do small things for him. They take very little of my time, but they mean the world to him. He notices when I forget, but ALWAYS thanks me for the things I do for him.
So, in answer to your question, it's the little things that let him know that you're thinking about his happiness that make a difference - that and putting him first.
The other thing that I've learned is to listen when he talks and to take interest in his hobbies and interests. If he bowls or something, participate, become proficient and enjoy yourself - it's something the two of you can do together.
Lastly, let him be the boss. Give him respect and show him that you trust him. Do as he asks and be a helpmate.
I know that all of this sounds very old school, but it's all good advice. As long as he is good to you, do whatever you can to make him happy. You will find that if he's happy you will be too. This doesn't mean putting yourself last or doing things that you don't want to do though. Just try to give and you will find that you receive far more.
2007-01-09 16:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dovie 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost - Are you happy with yourself? Are you secure that you are a good person worthy of love? If not, that you must fix yourself first.
A marriage that lasts has each spouse putting the needs of the other ahead of their own. Ask your husband what makes him happy, then make those things happen.
And keep trying new things. Don't let your marriage become routine as that is the kiss of death to any relationship.
2007-01-09 20:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also agree with Sadie. My man luvs that house clean meal done thing when he comes in. i am always making wonderful neat meals for him so he doesnt get into a dinner rut (meatloaf on Thursday, fish on Friday etc) i try to make his friends and family as comfortable as possible when they are in our home, eben though i am not big on entertaining and that small gesture means a lot to him.
be intune to what he wants and also to make the WHOLE house happy make sure he recipricates. when everyone is happy u can and will be labeled the best wife ever.
ps: mealsin30 minutes.com is a godsend :)
2007-01-09 17:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Sadie. Also, my husband tell me all the time that making our home a "safe place", is the best thing. A place that he can relax, get away from the problems of the day. Not blasting him with my problems as soon as he walks in the door. I have found that the best and easy thing to remember is this:
"Always prefer one another over yourself". If your husband does this too, you will have a DYNAMIC marriage in all areas.
2007-01-09 16:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know I am a male and my wife is the best ever married to for 9 years and 2 kids and 3rd due in two more months. My wife didn't have to do anything to make me happy. It didn't work very well for me and her when she try to make me happy all the time. I told her many many times to not to do that. and Finally she stopped and she being her. That what I like she being her and I am happy more because I get to know who she really is. I knew that she not who I know. Because, I am deaf and she is hearing and that how i can see manythings that she over doing it to make me happy. When I asked her to stop and asked her to be yourself and she did and wow, sex is great, commucations is great, doing this with family is great, and i mean people have to be who they are not try to be someone or try to make their parner happy all the time. ya know what I mean?
Asked your husband Do you really love me and do I make you happy? Am I being who I am ??? stuff like that and he would answer to you and you will only get answer from him not from those people here. smiling.
2007-01-09 16:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the house clean. Do what he says. Put your heart in everything you do. Be sincere about your love for him. Show him all the time that he's the man and that he is the King. Do not nag him. Read Proverbs 31 about the virtuous woman. It's not modern but you'll get the picture.
2007-01-09 16:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by guina 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋