to make things brief, my bf & i broke up about 6 months ago, but we both couldnt let go- we loved each other too much. we are finally starting to talk again and considering getting back together
but both of us have really changed over these months, and although there is conversation when were together, there are also a lot of awkward pauses. i dont think this is an indication that we wouldnt work, i just think were not yet used to each other like we used to be
part of it is my fault, i cant seem to be relaxed around him. i feel like i need to be an AMAZING gf and win him over completely, and this makes me tense when i talk to him.
so how do i avoid the awkward pauses? every pause makes me less hopeful for our relationship..thanks
2007-01-09 07:47:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
several issues here----1st is--if you guys really love each other then you will invest what is necessary to make this relationship work--and yes all good relationships take work. Do you need to be "amazing" because of your b/f wanting that or is this coming from you? are you a perfectionist? as long as u are both honest and know what you both want then whether u are meant to be together will become evident.
2007-01-09 07:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. It's so cliche but it truly is the best way. Your supposed to bring your 'best possible self' to a relationship, and you can do that without falsely representing yourself. I'm not saying that you're not an amazing girlfriend =P but just be yourself! RELAX because he might think you're really high strung when really all you're trying to do is win him over. Be cool about it, and if it's meant to be then it will work out. Don't get back together too soon though; get to know each other and know what you are getting yourself into. If you're relaxed and being yourself but there are still awkward silences and difficulties in making conversation then maybe you both have changed too much in the time that you've been apart. If that's the case then you can go out and find someone better! Good luck!
2007-01-09 07:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and be yourself for starters. You are who he fell in love with...not the new chick that's trying WAY too hard to impress him. Don't worry about the pauses. Eventually they'll turn into comfortable pauses that you don't even notice. You're just not comfortable with each other again yet. Sadly, people change over a very short period of time. Good luck!
2007-01-09 08:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to him about you feeling this way. Tell him you feel funny about the awkward pauses. Maybe he'll open up & agree with you! Then the problem would disappear! Communication is KEY. Also, to put all that pressure on yourself to be an AMAZING gf is tough...try to tell yourself that you have nothing to lose & you're already an amazing person. Maybe that would relax you a bit...
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2007-01-09 07:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to say to him "I feel awkward at times with you and I don't quite know why." Hopefully a conversation will ensue which will help you both to get more relaxed with each other. This is not a terrible problem (unless you make it so). Maybe a drink or two would help break the ice.
2007-01-09 07:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a lot incorrect right here, i do not understand the position to initiate. No,he's not too previous.i might want to assert that he isprobably mentally unbalance or a minimum of immature. you recognize the way you recognize that? because he's relationship someone who's likewise slightly immature. No, he's not stalking you. you're allowing him into your existence with information from giving in to his demands and leting him bully you emotionally into doing what he needs you to do. My ideal suggestion is that you stop chatting with him, stop seeing him, stop even studying his emails and basically basically flow on such as your existence. the purely reason he's being this variety of pest is because you're letting him be a pest.
2016-12-02 01:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by molander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe because there is a couple of things that are on your minds that you need to talk about. Try to ask him whats on his mind.
2007-01-09 07:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys should keep talking until you guys get used to talking to each other again you should hang around him more like get your friends and his friends and go ice skating and if you fall he will catch you ;)
2007-01-09 07:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by ashbash! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an ex for a reason. If it don't fit, don't force it just relax and let it happen. It is what it is!
2007-01-09 07:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about ur and his favorite things !
2007-01-09 07:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋