My boyfriend and I have hust started goingout and It comes to fin out that my best friend was messing around with him and got pregnent.should I brake up with him or just leave it alone and yes we were going out when this happend
2007-01-09 07:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by 32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dump both of them. Because of the baby, assuming she will keep it, they will always have a connection. And if it happened once...it will happen again. If not with her, with someone else.
2007-01-09 07:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by briteii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you and your boyfriend have an exclusive committment to not date other people when he went out with your best friend? Did your best friend KNOW that you were dating him and/or that you had a committment with him? Did HE know that she was your best friend or even just a friend?
If the answer to all of these questions is yes, then you should dump both of them fast and tell them WHY.
If the answer to one or some of the questions above is no, then you might want to forgive either him, or her or both of them. If you and your boyfriend did not have a committment then it's acceptable for him to date other people. If he knew she was your best friend before going out with her then he should have told you he was going to go out with her BEFORE he did so. If he didn't know beforehand, and you two had no committment, then he is innocent of wrongdoing, but guilty of stupidity for getting someone he barely knows pregnant.
If your friend knew you two were dating and went out with him anyway, without talking to you about it first, then obviously not only is she not your 'best' friend, but not a 'friend' at all! If, on the other hand she did not know you were dating him, then she is also innocent of wrongdoing, but also stupid for getting pregnant by someone she doesn't really know. This one is a no brainer. It might hurt to let go of them because you care, but please put care and respect for yourself first! You'll get over the hurt and learn some valuable life lessons from it all.
2007-01-09 08:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break it off with him. Especially if you're early in the relationship, it will be easier now than when (yeah, when) he's unfaithful later. Also, he needs to deal with your friend and the prospect of a child, especially if she chooses to keep the baby. He needs to take responsibility for her pregnancy (or abortion, if it comes to that) and there is no reason you should have to suffer in the middle of that stress, which would, I'm guessing, be coming from both sides at you. Take care of yourself on this one, break up with him and find someone loyal. Good luck.
2007-01-09 07:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all through a angry rage for about an hour, heehee...well skip that bit.
Of course you shouldnt break up with him but being a father is a big responcibility so it depends what he wants to do!
Dont get mad at your best friend or anything cos best friends can be foorgiven
Good Luck...
2007-01-09 07:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be clueless. If he cheated once he will do it again, and he has no respect for you for cheating with your best friend. She also has no respect for you or your relationship because she knew what she was doing, and NO FRIEND would ever sleep with the others mate. They are both careless, now shes pregnant. humph. Kick there a$$ to the curb immediately and don't look back.
2007-01-09 07:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Suga Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run the opposite direction from both of them. He is not trustworthy, and neither is your best friend. And besides, now there is a baby involved, the two of them need to be responsible and take care of their carelessness. Look at the situation, learn from it, (it can happen to you!) and look for more responsible guys to date, and more reliable friends to have.
2007-01-09 08:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by renegade_dancer5678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him, staying with him will only make things harder for you especially if your friend decides to keep the baby because he will need to be there for the kid and it will always be a reminder of how he cheated on you. I would probably also ditch the friend because she's not a good friend. it's better not to waste any more time on either fo them.
2007-01-09 07:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the Jerry Springer show. He seems to have good advice for situations like that one!
2007-01-09 07:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by newguy64020 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them cheated on you. Are you sure you wanna get involved? If I were you, I'd run miles away from them. They are nothing to me but betrayers.
2007-01-09 07:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding, sweetie?
RUN! actually KICK HIM OUT!
2007-01-09 07:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Boogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋