2007-01-09 07:39:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sorry to hear about this.
Just say: I'm sorry to hear about your (deceased name)
She will be grieving and crying, so hugging and just listening to what she has to say is more than enough.
If you want bring some flowers, and a sympathy card, too.
2007-01-09 07:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you your self have not experienced a death in your family, it is hard to relate - if this is the case let your friend know I wish I knew what to say that will make you feel better but I don’t know what your going through I can only imagine, but I just want you to know I'm here for you.
Don't talk about it too much, let them come to you. When you do talk to them don't talk about too much of what your going through, and don't always ask how are you doing - because they are hurting and everyone’s length of time for healing will be different.
See if there is something you can do see a movie, dinner something for them to take a break - and ask about other family members. There always seem to be dram with other people they will vent to you about.
Most of all, all you can do is just be there.
Good Luck
D
2007-01-09 15:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost a few family members(brother, son) and close friends(best friend). Dont ever say "they are in a better place", "everything happens for a reason" or any of that crap no one wants to hear it when they are grieving. If you go to the funeral never say "oh they look good". They seem like a help but trust me they are not. Just talk when they want to alot of times thats all you need someone to listen. Stay close and make sure your friend doesnt get down to far if that happens suggest counseling. Good luck and my thoughts are with your friend.
2007-01-09 15:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure she knows that you are there for her whenever she needs or wants to talk. It is important that you listen to her and don't talk about the deceased inless she brings it up first. Also do not talk about your trivial problems because that gets super annoying to the person. Nothing you can say is going to make her feel better and she will eventually be back to normal. I know because I have been on her side of things 4 times since June 2006.
2007-01-09 15:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes one should be left alone in this situtaions i think but not all the while just sometimes n whenever ur with her dont crack jokes n all say some serious things only n keep her mind off frm tht person talk abt anything just keep talking n c her mood n dont keep reminding abt tht person saying tht its ok its ok u said tht one r twice now enough coz tht makes one cry more ok hope this helps try it anyways then after a few days tell her 2 join some study r computer class r anything like tht n keep her busy n remember let time pass like this only time is the biggest healer so just as a frnd make her time pass off without much grief.
2007-01-09 15:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by shloka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be there for her when she wants to talk. get pictures of that family member, and make a morage of it for her. that will remind her of all the good times. Just let her know that they may have passed away, but will always be in a better place, looking down at her, and watching her from above.
2007-01-09 15:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not tell her you know how she feels--this is a major mistake. also do not tell her at any point "you should be over this by now" we all grieve in many different ways and some of us take longer to get over something. your friend has suffered a terrible loss and basically dont ignore this fact---acknowledge it and gently let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. Let her take the lead--she will let you know what she wants.
2007-01-09 15:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put yourself in her shoes! How would you like to be treated in a similar situation. Empathy is your best ally. Be assertive but not overbearing. Be loving but not sticky. Above all be honest. Don't tell her something just for the sake of saying it. Mean every word you say.
2007-01-09 15:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to comfort her and be there for her. Everyone takes losing a loved one differently so just be her shoulder and whatever she needs.
2007-01-09 15:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can visit with her; if she feels like talking you can talk with her. If it was someone who lived in her home, you can help around the house. It is the little things that give so much comfort.
2007-01-09 15:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋