I left my ex-husband after many years of abuse - emotional, financial, physical, verbal - you name it. He cheated on me with any woman who would have him, witheld money from the family, gave me two venereal diseases, etc. I found out yesterday that he has been telling everyone that I CHEATED ON HIM and that he threw me out. He's told people that I have "mental issues" and all kinds of things that make me look terrible when it was me who kept that marriage together by forgiving and praying that he would change. Now all these people think that it was all my fault.
I know that I should just blow it off and not worry about it, but darn it, I was a good wife and mother and it's not right. There were so many times I should have called the police on him or asked others for help, but I held my tongue so that I wouldn't damage his reputation or career.
Now I want REVENGE. What would you do? I can think of several ways to get him - including losing his professional license and jail
2007-01-09 07:35:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. You should tell the truth. My X did all the same exact things... Except he was talking bad about me to his friends and my friends, but then was BEGGING me to come back to him and give him another chance. I said HELL NO! I went to my friends house one night and sat there while he called me about 50 times and left 50 msgs. I played them for his friends and my friends and they listened... they could tell after just ONE message how psycho he was. Real psycho's have a hard time hiding it for very long. He obviously doesnt care what people think of you, so spread the word sweety.... tell everyone the truth about him. Thats what he deserves. And when he asks you why did you do this? Tell him, because YOU DID IT TO ME!
2007-01-09 07:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to go after your ex-husband for revenge. Let people believe him over you. and you can moved on and you know you will find a wonderful man who loves you and cares for you and being there for you and they will see wow they been married for 10 years and nothing bad things happen and looked at your ex-husband and they would see him being mean to other woman or hearing him divorce 8 times and all that ya know that what kind of person of him.
You really shouldn't go out there revenge reason then they will believe that you are mean and lie and all that... just be the best person you can be and show them all wrong. then they will talk to your ex husband smiling.
2007-01-09 17:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I'm not one to waste my hate on anybody. To me, hating somebody is a waste of my time, when I could be loving someone else, instead. I feel real bad for you having to go through the abuse you have had. I couldn't even imagine the pain and suffering you went through both physically and mentally. You might want to look into counselling for yourself, even though it costs money. No way should you have gone through what you did. I'll tell you the best revenge. Get your life together and move on. Once he sees that you've improved your life and have moved on and bettered yourself, he'll realize what a fool he was. One day he'll be on the outside looking in and seeing what he lost. That will be the best revenge.
2007-01-09 15:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The number one mistake women make in an abusive relationship is to keep quiet and not speak of the abuse. So many cases of abuse go unreported to the police. If it's not reported to the officials it's as though it never happened. It's a cat and mouse game that the abuser plays.
I would say that it's best to leave him alone. You can go and report everything to officials anyway to be on the safe side. Of course he has everyone thinking you're crazy to uplift himself and so he can look good. It's all part of the cat and mouse game.
Thank God you made it out alive and are pursuing a better life for yourself and your children. Part of the healing process is forgiveness. I'm not saying to be naiive and run back to him (because sooner or later he'll come begging for you to come back...part of the game) He has serious issues that should have been addressed many years ago. Being abusive is a learned behavior.
The best revenge you can take is to live well...inform yourself and arm yourself with a women's support group...take every measure possible to prevent any further abuse. Thank God you emerged as a victor, live life for you and your children. Pursue all your dreams...don't be consumed with hate (even though he did wicked things to you) Trust in God to continue to deliver you daily, and ask for strength. God takes revenge on those who hurt his children. Be in courage in Jesus name.
2007-01-09 16:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get revenge, it won't bring you anywhere, but l would definitely sue him for saying all those things that are not true and let's hope he goes to jail. What l don't understand is why you stayed with him all this time, you should have left him when the abuse first started.
Good luck and be strong
2007-01-09 15:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would "drop the rope" that is take the high ground no one wins at these types of fights. Be the better person! Besides it sounds like you got out of a bad relationship why tie yourself to it again and play his games? My ex does the same things to me and I treat it like a sickness. I know who and what I am and so does my family and friends. I feel sorry for the amount of energy that is put into revenge knowing that it is unhealthy. Life is really to short for that type of fight.
2007-01-09 15:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex do all the same damn things your ex hubby is doing to you. Revenge is sweet! I would have to agree with Angel eve! And if you have ANY thing you could hold against him USE it! You go girl! Show him your not going to put up with his **** and you will get him back for making you look bad for no reason. I realized that alot of guys like to play the victim when they were/are the true ASSES.
2007-01-09 15:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your best revenge would be to live your life and be happy.
If you REALLY wanna be nasty, you could mail him a box of dog crap or something. Take a fish and leave it out in the sun in wrapped in foil for a few days. Then put it in a box and seal it up nicely with tape so the smell doesn't get out. Finally when he succeeds in tearing the box open......yuck.
Or, fill out those cards with paid postage in his name. Order him magazine subscriptions, Franklin Mint Civil War chess sets etc.
DISCLAIMER I am just having fun. I am not advising you to break any laws.
:P
2007-01-09 15:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The greatest revenge is SUCCESS... move on and focus on having one hell of a good life financially and emotionally. If everyone believes HIM then move on from those people as well.
Start fresh and make it a grand life. ONLY YOU can make your life wonderful!
Happy Tuesday !! : )
2007-01-09 16:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's anything you can legally hold against him, do it. It will take money and time, but you shouldn't let people walk all over you.
2007-01-09 15:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋