Which is more likely to lead to unhappiness: to love unconditionally or to be loved unconditionally?

Answer 1

Loving unconditionally will lead to unhappiness because it means loving people that don't return that love and forgiving people for treating you poorly.

Answer 2

I think to BE love unconditionally will lead to unhappiness. I know this sounds strange. But if a person were to love you unconditionally, I mean truly unconditionally that person would be tied to you indefinitely. If you wanted to leave, you would find it quite difficult, if you did atleast in the slightest care about that person's feelings, to leave. If you love someone unconditionally, then you are responsible for you emotions and what happens in the relationship. When someone else loves you, you have no control over what they do or say. So I think to be loved would much more likely lead to unhappiness.

Answer 3

To be able to be loved unconditionally, with no "strings attached" I think would make you want others to feel the same freedom that you do, and so in to to love them "unconditionally" with no string attached. Of course this does not say, that in loving unconditionally, you will not at times with with people or circumstacnes in which love is conditional. This might cause you to be sad as you find a different mind set other than you own. But it should not lead to unhappines, as this really is the ebb and flow of life.

Answer 4

It is not possible for unconditional love to bring unhappiness or distress, whether given or recieved. If you love someone unconditionally, you love them the SAME even when they display the human tendencies to lie, cheat, steal, become envious, greedy, lazy, selfish, spiteful. You don't accept that you have incurred injury from that person when they do those things. That is why it is almost impossible for us to love unconditionally. We love someone on the condition that they will not do those things to us, and if they do, we withdraw our affection. If someone loves you unconditionally, it means that they accept that you may display those same tendencies, and it won't change the way they feel about you at all. They will not be dissappointed.

Answer 5

I see that you also asked whether giving or receiving unconditional love would lead to greater fulfillment.

To that question I answered that loving unconditionally leads to greater fulfillment than receiving unconditional love.

Here I would give the same answer, which seems contradictory. Actually, there is no dichotomy. This question asks about the greater risk; this asks about the greater reward.

The greater the risk, the greater the reward. Loving unconditionally can certainly lead to heartache. But then that's a matter of your own expectations of obtaining certain results in return for your love, which is not unconditional love. I doubt humans are fully capable of completely unconditional love in all circumstances, we are, after all, human, not divine. So yes, there are risks. But if one minimizes the risks (as I said in my answer to the other questions) by:
-- having a sense of self worth independent of the actions of the beloved
-- not permitting abuse of that love by being used
-- having healthy boundaries
(these really are all the same thing -- unconditional love does not mean co-dependence)

then the risks do not outweigh the fulfillment to be obtained through unconditional love.

Answer 6

To love unconditionally would bring more unhappiness because it is an act of constant giving, without regard to the return. To be loved unconditionally would be pure bliss, but it is rare.

Answer 7

i think to love unconditionally. If you loved some one unconditionally but the other person doesn't return the love back then it starts to stress you out and brings pain to your heart.

Answer 8

Love unconditionally.
With loving someone regardless (as i do), you leave yourself open for misery when the feeling is not returned.

Answer 9

There is an old saying: Trash attracts trash. Love is only conditioned on someone having lovable traits. Only a person who's soul is complete trash would 'love everybody.'

Answer 10

here's what i think; if it's conditional, then that's not love at all.