I am a mother of two boys (7&4). In July 2006 I lost my daughter at 8 months - I had a placenta abrution. This was a terrible lost and I feel so empty. My boyfriend expressed (at the time) that he didn't want me to get pregnant again. But recently he has been asking me about my ovulation periods and he wants to have have sex during these times. I really would like to get pregnant again. I am so scared - what are the odds of the same thing happening again. I could not stand to lose another child.
Thanking you in advance for all your time and replies.
2007-01-09 07:31:04 · 4 answers · asked by T.I.M.E. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
First of all let me express my condolences, to you and your family for your loss. I believe that the loss of a child, is something a parent should never have to experience, but unfortunalty these things happen.
I too, had 3 miscarrages before my first term pregnancy. I can empathize with your lost, empty feeling. If your boyfriend has been asking about ovulation cycles and wanting to have sex during that time. I would discuss it with him if, he wishes to concieve again. I thought I was the only one suffering from our loss, I did not realize the pain my husband was experiencing too.
The chances of having a placental abrution again are minimal. If you are ready emotionally, mentally, and physcially. You should try. If you have concerns about the reoccurence of such an awful experience speak with your ob/gyn. She/he is your best option for advice, because she will know the facts and has your medical history available.
If it were my decision, I would go for it. My first term pregnacny was complicated by a birth defect and a long stay in the NICU. My second pregnancy was a home birth, and a beautiful experience. It helped me heal alot of my emotional wounds, and finally be at peace with what had happened. I learned to enjoy being pregnant, and love being a mother. I hope you and you partner too, can enjoy the glorious experience again, and may it ease the pain of your loss. Good luck!
2007-01-09 07:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by herbestgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your doctor about the odds. It will be scary, but it seems like the time is right to start thinking about having another child. Just don't let the fear of "what ifs" keep you from having another child. If the doctor says that the odds are low, then go for it. Good luck with your decision.
2007-01-09 15:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility of it happening again. There are always risks with pregnancy. talk to your doctor and boyfriend. Be sure you want another child and that your boyfriend really wants another child.
2007-01-09 15:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by jade_d05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u arnt giong 2 have that happen again have sex with ur bf and have a babe
2007-01-09 15:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Robet W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋