I am a caring person who is always trying to help others. I stick up for my friends, am always there to listen when they need a shoulder to cry on, love to give gifts, and always try to care for and help the people I work with. But my efforts are never recognized. Should I just resign myself to the fact that people will never care about me like I care about others?
2007-01-09 07:30:49 · 14 answers · asked by Meghan M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes your best quality ends up being your worst.
Don't change friends and family will always NEED someone like you - it is a great quality to have and it comes naturally to you
For yourself you need to establish the fine line of when enough is enough - I would suggest two things
1) Always be there for your friends but evaluate the situation understand you can't continue to be there for people who don't care to fix the problem they continually get them selves into - you can always love and be there when they need you but there is a limit to how far your kindness goes in such situations
2) Be more open and honest with your friends - this is the hardest things to do because you don't want to feel petty - but it establishes boundaries and it helps you get things off your chest so you don't feel the ones you love walk over you, and take for granted your kindness
But don't change you we need more people like you in this world.
Good Luck
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2007-01-09 07:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe i am like you....I have learned the hard way myself and this is what I have learned. We have a special gift of love, compassion and the thriving of wanting to give it to others..You must learn that many people who are not as compassionate as were are know how to take us for granted. What we have will always be in us we cant change who we are and what God gave us. Why would we? We are rare and wonderful people. We need to learn how to give it wisely. I have learned that when I give what I have to give I except the fact that I don't expect or want or need any thing in return. My gratification comes form the fact that I did something good for someone and touched them in a way that maybe no body has before. So they might not even know how to thank you.because they don't have the capability or know how to do so like we do. So instead of taking the negative side look at the positive side that it was you that gave from your heart and that should be gratifying enough for you. Don't expect to be appreciated because really that's not what were all about is it? If you need recognizing from others then you truly were not giving from your heart and it is only the praise you are looking for. So if you don't change the way you think about giving you will always be in for a let down and become hurt.. It is the giving that's the gift not what you receive. You have most likely made so many peoples days without realizing it because you were only waiting for the approval. Know that you don't need approval from people in order to give.
2007-01-09 08:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your recognition should be the satisfaction that you gave an honest effort in trying to be a good friend. If you are looking for a pat on the back,or some kind of reward,your efforts are not really sincere,because then there would be an ulterior motive in your friendship gestures.
Just smile and move on,and know that your efforts are appreciated ,even though no one give you recognition .
2007-01-09 07:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel and it is unfortunate. There are 2 kinds of people in this world-the ones that only care about themselves and the ones that care about others. Your friends do care about you they just have a rude way of showing it and it hurts. I wish I had more advice, but I cant help you because i feel the same way. But believe me, itll make you feel better to know that you are not the only one that goes through this.
2007-01-09 07:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Collegegirl20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are putting in to much effort and your friends aren't putting in enough make sure you are not letting yourself be used don't be a doormat. I'm not saying stop being a good friend or stop helping others just make sure you get as much as you give
2007-01-09 07:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people in general pretty much suck.
And The fact that you are whining about it means you do it for the recognition more than just being "nice" otherwise you wouldn't care what you got back in return, if anything at all.
2007-01-09 07:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People take girls like you for granted cause they think you are strong and are happy with what you have got in life.They forget to give because they are too busy receiving.Take some time out for yourself they might notice some thing or some one is missing then?
2007-01-09 07:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nookie bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on yourself now instead of others, when your friends see that you have an interest in yourself, they will then become interest in your life and your well being. It a weird concept but people are attracted to people who are attracted to themselves.
2007-01-09 07:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just keep being you and you will be rewarded. For all of those that don't appreciate you for you and who you are, they will one day realize what a valuable friend they missed out on. But don't change who you are, thats what makes you unique.
2007-01-09 07:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Suga Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try caring about yourself
2007-01-09 07:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋