My friend is cheating on his wife. Should i tell her? He's a student in Russia and she is staying in Jamaica.

Question

He is here to study but all he's doing is entertaining himself with other girls. I know her email, maybe i should tell her?

Answer 1

No, no, no. It is not your place to interfere that way.

Answer 2

Thats a toughy. I will say just this. Ask yourself if your girlfriend or wife were cheating on you, would you want someone to tell you? Now that you have answered this question.....you have to understand the consequences of telling her. Are you willing to face your friend after his wife tells him who told her? AND....are u prepared to deal with whatever effect that has on your relationship with him? Perhaps, you may try a more subtle way to put a bug in her ear. I do feel she needs to know, none of us ever want to be made a fool of......however, u need to be delicate on how you choose (if u do) on how to let her in on it. Is there a secret way of hinting about it, without coming right out and telling her? If you give a woman a little hint, our intuition will take over. Hope you make the right decision. Good luck

Answer 3

I would absolutely tell her. However, you CAN do it anonymously. Send her an anonymous letter from another state or an anonymous email from a yahoo account, whatever. There are ways to do it. I actually lost a good friend because I didn't want to get in the middle of their personal business by not telling her I knew her spouse was cheating on her. I regret it to this day.

Answer 4

It would be extremely hard for you to tell your friend's wife about this, but in my opinion, I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me. It would hurt, but I would definitely want to know.

Your friend could possibly be very upset with you, but I think that it's a cost/benefit situation. The benefit of helping that woman would be much better than making a friend upset if he is doing unmoral things.

Since you have her e-mail, you could possibly send her an e-mail but not tell her your name. Tell her you are friends with this man and you feel badly for this but you can't just sit there doing nothing and you feel that you must tell her what her husband is doing.

I'm sorry you're in this position--do what you feel is best :-)

Answer 5

mind your own business. by the way check out the movie "How Stella Got Her Groove Back," Petersburg is the chick capital of the world, just like Jamaica is the womans' paradise. You should not judge what you do not understand!

Answer 6

Stay out of other people's relationships. If his wife is a good friend of yours, then maybe. But if not and you only know her through him, then leave it alone. However, you can talk to him and tell him your thoughts, but most times he won't care.

Answer 7

I would talk to the friend who is doing the cheating if anything. Other than that - I'd stay out of it! You do not want that drama in your life.

Answer 8

Maybe you shouldn't.
Exactly what is to be gained by this? When you know the answer to that then you will better understand your own motivations for wanting to tell.

Answer 9

trust me , just let her find out herself..I once told someone about a cheating boyfriend, I had proof and showed her & she still ended up marrying him. Only to find out the hard way that he was a major jerk. sometimes its part of your path to learn from hard experiences in life, to grow & move on.

Answer 10

I'd say try talking to ur friend first, maybe it's not as serious. And if he just doesnt get it. Then try to talk to his wife because he's not worth it.

Answer 11

fly over to jamaica and tell her what her husband is doing but that she deservers better and you love her and want to marry her.