after 7yrs and 3 kids, I found that my partner was fooling around with one of our friends. They both say nothing ever happened. That it was just texting each other words.
2007-01-09 07:17:38 · 11 answers · asked by Jynni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before we got married my wife said "If you cheated on me it over and done there is no second chance" And I knew what you meant and I took her seriouly and I never cheated on her for last 9 years now and counting and still going and going and i have 2 kids and I would never ever put my kids though see mommy and daddy not together anymore. I been though see my mom and dad and I am not going to be the next person in the family to do that.
To tell you the truth tell her not to see a friend anymore and if she said no i still want to see... just say ok that fine and go to court or see lawyer and find out how you can get full cosudy of your kids and then hand her the divorce paper. smililng.
2007-01-09 10:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just texting then why are you just now finding out about it? See when you have to question your partner and a friend then there is something that isn't right. Sit down and speak with your partner and ask them directly to the point if they are still committed to the relationship. If the answer to your question means that it is time for you to go your separate ways then do so that the children will not be affected to much. Sit down and discuss how you two will work out the details on everything. From who will have the kids whatever days to who is going to be around them. After this I would suggest going to speak with a counselor on your feelings and maybe have the children seek counseling too. Even if this is turns out to be harmless fun, it has put damage in the relationship of you and your partner. God bless.
2007-01-09 07:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wifey K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who leave such glaring evidence around *want* to get caught, or they have *zero* respect for their partner. Either of those indicate he doesn't want to be around you but lacks the spine to say something. He's a baby and a liar. Nice combo.
If by "cheats" you mean more than once, dump him. If it's the first AND ONLY time, judgment call.
But very few -- very, very few - cheaters change. They keep cheating.
You have been warned.
2007-01-09 07:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you walk away. They are both lying to you. Best thing you can do is file for divorce FIRST and have joint custody of your kids. Not once has it ever worked out in the marriages I've seen when the wife/husband takes back the cheater. The cheater always swears it was a one time deal and that it will never happen again and they ALWAYS end up cheating on them again. Always. Save yourself now. End it.
2007-01-09 07:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a hard one,I always say once a cheater always a cheater but then again there are kids invovled and it is worth a try to make it work.You are the only one who really knows if there is a chance the reconcile,if he is truly wiling then yes ,anything is possible ,but if you feel in your heart that it is not worth it then no.Dont just put up with it for the kids though,trust me I know it does more harm than good.
2007-01-09 07:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That totally depends on the situation, and if BOTH of you can get over it.
For me, YOUR situation would be very difficult and I could not handle it at all.
My husband and I have been together 6 years with 2 kids. His whore was during his crack binge that lasted 3 months, she lasted a little over a month. She was married and he said that he only had sex with her a handful of times.
I was ready to kill him, until I found a score card wrote in his hand where they were playing dice. She was SEXY, he was LONELY. When we played it was ME/YOU.
She was very ugly, and had the personality to match. That score card said it all and I am trying to get past it, counceling is helping some.
2007-01-09 07:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
human beings stay because of the fact of their head, they reason it out that there important different loves them, and that they forgive. some human beings do no longer opt to be on their very own, and their important different comes abode to them. they are so used to their important different, that they are afraid to start throughout returned. it is becomming greater hassle-free for BF/GF to cheat on one yet another, and from time to time they marry and it purely maintains. unhappy, i understand. I surely have not cheated, yet have had it finished to me with tips from BF, fail to appreciate, as you're loose to stroll away, as there are no longer any infants and no legalities and so on.. wager worried of been on their very own. stressful whilst human beings say it is purely approximately intercourse, and that the cheater could properly be in love. it is rubbish, as one individual is sufficient. think of the cheater has themes, that have been there long till now the relationship replaced into, and till those are resolved then the cheating will proceed.
2016-10-06 21:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they both say that, how do you know otherwise?
I would always say try to work it out, but you need to honestly assess whether or not that is possible. I can't answer that.
2007-01-09 07:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like u dont have proof he even cheated? I would forgive a guy for cheating for the sake of keeping a family togheter. if the relationship is otherwise ok. why dont you trust him? are their deeper problmes gonig on than what you are telling here?
2007-01-09 07:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that it wouldn't work for me! I could never trust my partner again.
2007-01-09 07:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋