is that grounds to finish our relationship?Ive tried everything to show him and lead him but its just not working.I mean hes a sweet,caring man.Hes very good to me buys me whatever i want,holidays etc.Should i hang on to him and get myself a playmate on the side?
2007-01-09 07:15:15 · 33 answers · asked by Nellynoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
flutterby......yes it does sound a little kooky but no hun x
2007-01-09 07:29:40 · update #1
i say get urself a rampant lover on the side then u CAN have ur cake and eat it! oh isn`t that funny but my diary seems to be clear for the rest of my life :)
2007-01-09 10:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by groundhog 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, it isn't valid grounds to finish a relationship. Would you put up with a horrible man who beat the crap out of you daily just because he was what you consider to be spectacular in bed. Thank your stars that you have what you describe as a sweet, caring man. Most women can't find that, and when they do, they always find some reason to sabotage the relationship instead of working on it.
Also, if you are faking your orgasms, which most women do, you are confusing your partner and not helping the situation.
As for getting a playmate on the side, contemplate how unfair it is to disregard your partners feelings by being intimate with another. Think about if it were you in your boyfriend's shoes. I don't believe that you would want your partner to share something as intimate as sex with someone other than you. If your going to be with someone else, at least show a little decency by breaking up with this "...sweet, caring man..." before starting something new. It keeps the complications to a minimum.
Talk with your partner. Who knows. Maybe your not rocking his world either.
2007-01-09 08:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by J T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should cheat, even asking if you should makes you sound cheap! Sex is an important part of a relationship and if you plan to spend your life with him, you probably need to move along and find someone else. Maybe you should purchase some books and some porn to let him watch and read and maybe he will get the hint then, but if its not working then its not working and you need to go on. If he is as nice as you say he is, then don't you think he deserves better than you cheating on him?
2007-01-09 07:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maddie, there is historical asserting, "comprehend him, yet suspect him". in case you're that stricken by this youthful guy, you have 3 factors to evaluate. a million. Why is he right now displaying this type of interest to you? this is advisable to think of in terms of the previous television coach happy Days, Fonzie constantly mentioned, "Be Cool" and "Do each thing with cool". he's a guy and he has a super form of hormonal power at this degree in his existence. i'm writing like your father now ! additionally 2. Why are YOU so stricken by this youthful guy? ask your self, what's it approximately him or me that gets me all shy and embarrassed? what's it approximately him (or me) that gets me all shook up? NOW 3. the main severe undertaking is: you're somebody with presents, skills and unique seems that no person else has. Ask your college counselor to characterize some flair and interest exams you may take to study approximately your self. once you have a more advantageous experience of what your presents are, you will discover that it's going to be lots extra problematical to reason you to be shy or timid -- exceedingly around the choice intercourse. advantages to you, ultimately
2016-10-30 11:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no you can't get a playmate! How will he ever learn? Besides, you say he is sweet and caring so how can you repay him by being so mean and cheating. Give it time, he will improve, just be patient. If he is caring he will show you in other ways, physically, when he feels confident enough
2007-01-09 07:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reading your question, your attitude with regards to making love sounds to be a bit .....................predator'ish.
He is a sweet man as you say, thinks a lot of you by the sounds of things - Maybe he is too good for you, if all you want is a roll in the sack???
Depends really on what you really want of this relationship?
2007-01-09 07:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think your relationship will last very long if you have this problem already as it is a very important part of any relationship. I would finish with him but try to be tactful and not hurt his feelings too much as everyone has different desires we are not all the same.
2007-01-09 10:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really think that "good in the sack" is the only or chief qualification for a sound relationship you need to think again - especially about your own standards. Alternatively, has it struck you that perhaps you don't turn him on?
2007-01-09 07:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by artleyb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is grounds to end the relationship, instead of a side peice, get someone with the same qualities as bf has plus is good in bed.
2007-01-09 07:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sex isn't everything! Its an added bonus! See a therapist who may be able to help! Do alot of foreplay together, that should spice things up!
2007-01-09 08:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by James 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋