im 16 female and iv told my family and close friends that im bi, i feel that im bi and im attracted to women, but i dont know if iam sexually attracted to them? i fancy them and i think about the girls i like when i do fancy them but i dont know if i could see my self in a sexual relationship with them. i do fancy boys because i can remeber the first fellas iv ever fancied. but right now im surrounded by a a lots of girls inmy life and my gay best frend and my other frend who is bi am i being inffluenced by the factors as to whether im really bi or not?? i am also more comfortable around more femine boys, does this mean im a lesbien??
Sorry if this was confusing any help will be apprecited.
2007-01-09 07:08:02 · 6 answers · asked by Denise 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your just 16 and it is natural for you to have a curiosity about what it might be like with another girl. Girls form a closer emotional tie as friends then boys do. You might want to consider talking to a counselor. Not to talk you out of anything but to help you come to terms with yourself. Some people ar BI (Like myself) some are lesbian and can only relate sexualy with other women and some are straight and while they can "hang" with those of us who might have a broader view of life they are still only going to be sleeping with guys. You say you remember your first guy. I take that to mean there have been others? Did you enjoy it and can you see yourself being with guys again?
You don't say that you have had any first hand experience with a girlfriend but have a gay friend as well as another that says she is BI also.
Sounds to me like you are more curious than actually being BI which as I said earlier is compleatly normal. I would suggest the councelor first and if the two of you work things out include your two girlfrinds in your thoughts. I would let them know that as of yet you are still unknowing and if things don't work out and you just don't feel right then let them know, gentaly but firmly that you made a mistake and this just isn't for you or if it does work out then I wouldn't go much past the holding, kissing, petting stage for awhile.
Still though see a councelor first although I wouldn't recomend a school conselor and while I think a church is a great place for many things do NOT go to your local preacher for this type of help. (IE: youe are damed to hell for you lesbian blasphemous way...). He would be doing what he thought was right and best for you but it won't help you at all. (FYI to all- I am NOT putting down churches or preachers. Good luck, drop me a note and let me know how things are going with you if you would like.
2007-01-09 08:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young and you have more than adequate time in your life to figure all of this out. You should simply do what makes you happy for now and not worry too much about labeling yourself one way or the other. Give your true self time to develop.
2007-01-09 07:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your post, you seem young and are very confused. I noticed that alot of youth for some peculiar reason are flirting w/ this hetero-, bi-, homosexual thing. I don't think it's very healthy and don't think it's appropriate for you to believe that you are "bisexual" because you're attracted to females. Like the other person wrote, you are much too young to figure that out. Have you ever questioned "why" you think you have these attractions? What's your relationship like w/ your parents, particularly your mother? I think maybe you should seek counseling/help.
2007-01-09 07:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 13:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bit to young to label yourself already.
First get some real life experience.
Then see what you are.
Think that you are jumping to conclusions here
Greetings:Rob.xxx
2007-01-09 07:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it.
you are what you are, you dont need a lable to be yourself!!!
2007-01-09 07:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋