i keep in contact wit all of my ex's. recently i contacted an ex who i haven't talked to in over a year and all of a sudden the feelings that i had for him came back all at once. i recently just brook up wit my boyfriend back in december and he still thinks we go together or whatnot and of course yeah we keep intouch, but it don't matter who i'm talkin to at the moment i just think about him, becuz my feelings for him were real then i moved and we lost contact, but i found him and it was as if we talked to each other everyday. the boy i brook up wit my feelings for him were real to, but it was like once i started back to talkin to this one guy they didn't matter anymore. this is complicated to explain, but give me some feedback.
2007-01-09 07:07:14 · 11 answers · asked by kateee2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you are a glutton for punishment. You deal with the feelings by never having them again. You never have the feelings again after you never speak to them again. It's quite simple really. I honestly don't mean to sound cruel, but I don't feel sorry for you. You brought this on yourself, and it's a very unhealthy habit to have. Move on! You are special enough as is, and you don't need to talk to these guys any more, especially when it brings you turmoil.
2007-01-09 07:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from i am currently in the same situation with an ex-boyfriend of mine.
What you need to do is see where his feelings for you are at the moment now that you two have re-entered each others lives. If you two are not on the same page then move on but keep in touch. Somethings just arent meant to be, but if the only reason the two of you broke up in the first place is because you moved try and see if you can start over again.
2007-01-09 07:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by so.sophisticated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry Hun you seem really hurt and that's never a good feeling. You can spend forever trying to figure out what happened, but people change and grow apart even when it seems like everything's fine, I'm sure it had nothing much to do with your petty arguments because every relationship has them. I do respect him for telling you upfront how he was feeling a lot of guys are not that forthcoming. The only thing you can do is give it time, because your hurting as hard as it may be you need to tell him to stop texting you until your over how hurt you are as it will only bring you more pain and if he respects and cares for you he will allow you that time and space. Eat small meals your nerves are high which can make eating the last thing you wanna do but you don't want to get sick or make yourself look unhealthy, go out and try your best to focus on other things, hang out with friends or ask your mom who seems very supportive to not bring his name up and do some mother daughter things. As cliche as it may sound you will get through this with time, I myself have had moments where I thought the man I was with was it for me and could not imagine being without him but with time and God I got through those emotions. Don't call him or let him know your crying over him, you don't want anyone to come back to you based on guilt or cause he feels sorry for you, this will make you stronger learning lessons are necessary in life we all get them as we grow in life. Who knows in time you may see that you two truly were better as friends than in a relationship and he may have very well gave you a great opportunity to not only find yourself but to find the one you were meant to find. Good luck and I hope if anything my advice has helped you during this really confusing and emotional time.
2016-05-22 23:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping in touch with your ex's is hard..... I could never do that - at least until I have no feelings left for them. I would choose which one I wanted to hang out with and try to pursue a relationship with. It sounds like you and the older boyfriend were tight and broke things off 'cause you moved. I would try to get things back in some respect with the older boyfriend and this new one that you just broke up with needs to know his standing. Either way you are going to have to break one off to be the other if not it gets too complicated......just remember to call them ALL baby.....good luck with your decision...
2007-01-09 07:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by shadows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sorta know what you mean. me and my girl broke up back in december but i still think about her all the time. we broke up after 18 months. I was heart broken..she kept telling me "just for now" and "i still have hope"... the onlly reason that she could give me is that she wanted to find her identity and be on her own for a bit. I belive her...but yea if your feelings are real they wont really ever die. You just need to find a place for them. Either talk to your ex or just set your feelings aside and move on with life. Do what you want to do.
2007-01-09 07:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. contact the boy you just broke up with and let him know you are moving on...make it clear... Have you tried talking to the guy you now have feelings for? Thats a start...
2007-01-09 07:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the ex from a year ago, u didnt have closure with him. and girl, if you have found true love, u better hang onto it. loves will come and go in your lifetime, but one will remain "true". it could be that this is the one for you. take advantage of the rekindle and see where it leads. u never know till you try and you dont want to have any "shoulda", "coulda" or "wouldas" later in life. good luck in love girl.
2007-01-09 07:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never look back...there was a reason you two broke up to start with....remember it!!! And why must you stay in touch with al your ex's???? They have a life and maybe their new "friend" will not appreciate your calls
2007-01-09 07:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you still live far away from him? why else did you break up? if its not going to work in the long run then give up.........if you live near him now then go for coffee and talk to him as a friend.........maybe things have changed
2007-01-09 07:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-09 07:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋