Married people?

Question

Marriage sucks doesnt it?
Why did you get married? was it love w/o reason? did you choose your wife/husband with your heart or with your brains or both? I guess most of you will say both but if so then why does almost every marriage end with a divorce?!

Answer 1

i can actually say i choose my husband with my brain put the heart to the side i was married before didnt work i married my ex because i was in love but after a kid and hard times he really wasnt what i need it or want it in my life, my husband now is great i get along with him we love making jokes and playing games we enjoy spending time together he helps me around the house i work an 8 hour corporate job he is a contractor works 10 to 12 hours a day we make time for each other i visit him at work or he gets me for lunch, i was not in love with him by the time he propose but i knew he was a great guy and i could learn to adore him after some time i found myself in love with him and we have been nothing but happy, what i am trying to say sometimes we have to think of what is right for you and not what your heart is pushing you to do we are humans and we do make mistakes but if you think about some of your exs you would say what i was thinking of ****

Answer 2

Almost every marriage doesn't end in divorce. Despite what pop psychology says, current divorce rate is the lowest it has ever been, fluxating from 23 - 27%. Roughly, 1 in 4 marriages end in result and typically, it's people between the ages of 45 - 60. Divorce hit a peak in the 70's and 80's at 50%. That's where that figure comes from. You can look up the true statistics on snopes.com or look up divorce statistics put out yearly by the government. As for marriage sucking, well, some do. The "in-love" feeling wears off after a couple of years and most people make it work through friendship and mutual respect. Marriage is the safest environment for raising healthy children and children diserve to have both parents. People often marry for the wrong reasons or marry too young. You need to decide what you're looking for and make sure that your significant other has the same requirements. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage as people aren't perfect. You just make it work or you walk away.

Answer 3

I firmly believe most marriages end in divorce these days because people have stopped trying. Society wants everything handed to them and don't want to to work for it. It's the way we are these days and unfortunately we are raising our kids to be the same way. I am guilty of it as well. Society has made it so easy to just say "I quit" rather then stay for the long haul and put in the work required. I am in the process of getting a divorce myself, but we went through damn near 2 years of counceling and I went through him cheating on me for a combined 2 years almost (2 different woman) until I finally said I was done. I know some people wouldn't be able to handle that and I don't expect them to, but I wanted my marriage to work and I felt that if I could figure out what was wrong, then maybe we could fix it together. He felt the same way, although it didn't work. Marriage is tough and it doesn't get easier as time goes by. Every day is work and it requires both partners 100%.

Answer 4

Marriage doesn't suck if you do it right. I knew the moment I met my husband that he was the one and we both had to make changes within to be together. We chose each other with our souls and it's true love. But even with true love a person has to realize that being married doesn't make you one. You still have to communicate everything. If you're upset you have to say so but you also have to realize that just because you are married you can't stop treating the other person with respect and kindness. You have to address each topic as you would like to be addressed, not with yelling or name calling. Anyone is capable of communicating clearly yet responsibly and that's what you have to do if you want your marriage to work. But on the other hand this has to be something that both people have to do equally. It can't be one sided. Most marriages end in divorce because people can't communicate and they lose the respect for each other.

Answer 5

MARRIAGE doesn't suck.

The people who entered into the marriage are the ones who are making it suck.

I chose my husband because he had money and I needed some, so I guess one would say that I chose him with my brain.

Marriage ends with a divorce for so many reasons. Mostly (in my opinion) because they should of never of married in the first place or because they are both too stubborn and unwilling to work things out in a proffessional setting (therapist) and because it is so much easier to give up and move on.

I think that in MOST cases (abuse, drug use, cruelty excluded) if there was a MANDATORY counceling order, most marriages in this country could be saved.

Answer 6

First of all. Yes. Marriage does suck. Marriage is about sacrifice. Sacrificing is not enjoyable. Sacrificing sucks. Anyone that tells you different is deceiving their self. Because the hard work and committment it takes to make a successful marriage is not fun. Saying that, there are benefits that come from a successful marriage, so I am not knocking marriage. But overall it does suck because of all the hardwork involved. And the more expectations you have of the marriage, the harder the work.

Anyone that tells you they like married life are people that usually find a way to manipulate their kids and spouse so they get everything they want. But marriage is about giving and more giving and giving until it sucks. Again, not saying every aspect of marriage sucks, but overall, yes.

Answer 7

Marriage doesn't suck, BAD marriages suck!! Marriage is a work in progress. You have to understand that there will be good times and bad times. To many people throw in the towel when the going gets tough--In my opinion it's those people that should never get married. You should only wed when you have found someone that is worth sticking by when the sh*t is hitting the fan!! I used both heart and brain.

Answer 8

it can certainly go either way. I have seen married people that are best friends - which is the way it should be - and have good relationships. Marriage is a continual process. It's work, not happily ever after.
I got married because it was the right thing to do at the time, and I thought I was in love. but after almost 18 years, I'm standing right next to you saying marriage sucks. It's me, it's him and it's total lack of trust and communication, it seems too far gone to even try anymore.
So, my point is, it's not marriage that sucks, it's the couple who stopped trying. myself included.

Answer 9

I am married. I do not think marriage sucks. I really enjoy being married. I got married because I found a decent man who was intelligent, thoughtful, and didn't mind the fact I had a past. I honestly think he married me because I had a past and wasn't one of those goodie two shoes girls he had been dating. I choose my husband with my brain, and my heart followed later. We were engaged before "I love you" was said. In April we will be married 7 years and are re-newing our vows.

FYI: 50% divorce rate is a MYTH. "Some states don't report divorces to the National Center for Health Statistics, including one of the largest: California."

Answer 10

I love my marriage. my wife and i have been married now for 9 year. the reason most marriage suck as you like to say is you do not like to talk to each other. Talking and sharing is what make a marriage and with in the talking is change for both of you so you both move in the same duration in life. yes i have been close to a divorce but i was willing to change to make it work. and I'm glad i did.but i would have never no that it was coming with out her and i talking about it.

Answer 11

Over half succeed. Married men live longer than single men. I got married because I loved my husband and we had the same values and goals. It was love WITH reason. We chose each other with both heart and brains. Most marriages do not end in divorce.