I don't know what causes YOUR fear of success, but think about the responses that you got when you were little when you expressed yourself in a successful manner. Who or what turned your success into an unpleasant experience?
Or, how did you interpret your successes?
In the western world it's quite recent in history that people follow their dreams and leave home and get different jobs than their parents'. Parents might have a deep anxiety when their children are successful because this might mean for them that you will leave and become a different person. Maybe they will be left behind. Or parents want to protect you from the suffering because of possible failure (if they suffered from failures): "are you sure you can do that?".
There might be other sources of this fear, like friends getting jealous and excluding you or being in the center of attention, thus, more vulnerable.
2007-01-09 07:22:40
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answered by Ronald Vexa 3
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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. -------Coach Carter
2007-01-09 07:07:11
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answer #3
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answered by Greywolf 6
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Tools for Personal Growth
Handling Fear of Success
Content:
What is fear of success?
What are the negative consequences of the fear of success?
What do those who fear success believe?
What new behavior patterns can help in overcoming your fear of success?
Steps to overcoming fear of success
What is fear of success?
Suppressing anxieties of not being good enough,
Uniting all talents and virtues for a greater good
Confronting and dismissing existing fears in an appropriate manner , Recognizing and welcoming the
Chance to triumph over competition without feeling unworthy or undeserving
Expressing views and opinions without hesitation. Setting
Sights on a goal and achieving it with both sacrifices and rewards. These make up the rough climb, the seemingly impossible
Steps that if completed always lead straight to success, rewarding those who persevere.
Melissa M. Messina
Fear of success is the:
Fear that you will accomplish all that you set out to, but that you still won't be happy, content, or satisfied once you reach your goal.
Belief that you are undeserving of all the good things and recognition that come your way as a result of your accomplishments and successes.
Opposite of fear of failure, in that fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes and losing approval. Fear of success is the fear of accomplishment and being recognized and honored.
Lack of belief in your own ability to sustain your progress, and the accomplishments you have achieved in your life.
Fear that your accomplishments can self-destruct at anytime.
Belief that no matter how much you are able to achieve or accomplish, it will never be enough to sustain success.
Belief that there are others out there who are better than you, who will replace or displace you if you do not maintain your performance record.
Belief that success is an end in itself; yet that end is not enough to sustain your interest and/or commitment.
Fear that once you have achieved the goals you have worked diligently for, the motivation to continue will fade.
Fear that you will find no happiness in your accomplishments; that you will be perpetually dissatisfied with life.
What are the negative consequences of the fear of success?
Fear of success can result in:
A lack of effort to achieve goals you have set for yourself in school, on the job, at home, in relationships, or in your personal growth.
Self-destructive behavior: tripping yourself up to make sure you do not sustain a certain level of success or achievement you once had in school, on the job, at home, in relationships, or in your personal growth.
Problems making decisions, being unable to solve problems.
Losing the motivation or the desire to grow, achieve, and succeed.
Chronic underachievement.
Feeling guilt, confusion, and anxiety when you do achieve success. This leads you to falter, waver, and eventually lose your momentum.
Sabotaging any gains you made in your personal growth and mental health, because once you become healthier, a better problem solver, and more "together,'' you fear that no one will pay attention to you. You are habituated to receiving help, sympathy, and compassionate support.
Your choosing to do just the opposite of what you need to do to be happy, healthy, and successful.
Reinforcing your chronic negativity, chronic pessimism, and chronic lack of achievement since you cannot, visualize yourself in a contented, successful life.
Denouncing your achievements and accomplishments; seeking ways in which you can denigrate yourself enough to lose what you've gained.
2007-01-09 07:05:45
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answer #4
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answered by Dr. Albert, DDS, (USA) 7
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perhaps simply by fact different peoples concept of them will substitute and the interest would desire to bypass to their head-and it many times does. i think of subsequently human beings stay interior the jobs they are in and that they are perhaps gentle the place there existence is on the 2d.
2016-10-30 10:59:22
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answered by ? 4
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