I know this may sound silly but I went from being a married woman with no kids. To being divorced and now married again, only this time with my husbands kids from another marriage. I want to work and go back to school but I have no time with the little one here during the day. I get really depressed during the day and start thinking about the things in life I want to do. Along with other things.Does anyone have any advice on what I can do before this becomes a major problem in my life? I have got the point I get mad at my husband over nothing and think about the lies he told me before that and things we have went through. I feel like I am losing contorl. My family is 4 hrs. away so it's not like I can go see them. I mean are there any real work at home jobs or something to keep me busy. What about the whole starting your own bussiness is that something that might help?
2007-01-09 06:45:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seems to me like you got too much too fast just take a breath and exhale, work is great but i wish i can spend more time with my family then if i am home i want to be at work life is not what you want but what you make out of it****
2007-01-09 07:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, basic depression is often caused or aggravated by lack of exercise and a lack of 'B' vitamins (stress tabs, or the equivalent). What do you need to get a bit more exercise? Get a stroller for a little one? If the kid is 2 or more, more exercise for the young one will help also. Next read a good book about interpersonal relations. I just read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. Perhaps there are some ideas in it that would help you communicate better with your spouse, and thus feel better about the situation. The Internet gives you access to much in the way of school/training. If you know what you want to do work wise, start studying in that direction.
2007-01-09 15:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband. You obviously are overwhelmed by taking care of a child all day. It has got to be hard on you. Is there any chance of maybe getting the child in a play group or nursery school or something to give you a break or perhaps if the child was in daycare you could go to school or work. It sounds like it already is a major problem. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. You have been burdened with the care of a child who isn't yours and it sounds like it was thrown on you without much discussion.
2007-01-09 14:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by emmys momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go back to school, even if it's just take some basics. It may give you a sense of empowerment to take control of your day and future. They have daycare programs at community colleges, you pay based on income. Also, churches have daycare that would probably be fairly cheap, if money is an issue.
I have been a stay at home mom for like 5 years, and I am going back to school now, to become an RN and it has really improved my outlook on life.
You signed up for this, and it must've been because you loved your husband, so take control of it and improve your situation!
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-09 14:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time being depressed. If you know something in your life needs improvement, then go do something about it. You should just leave his kid at a Daycare Center while you get your life back on track. Staying home & being depressed about it is not going to help much & not going to change anything. Anything in life is possible, the impossible only becomes WHEN YOU LET IT. If you want to move forward in life & want improvements, then you have to get on your feet & make it happen. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-09 14:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, didn't you read the fine print? You signed your life away to the man you supposedly love. Now you have to live with it! My only suggestion is to be more involved which will make you not so self centered. Go to Church, start drinking or deal with it. The choice is yours. You have no other choice.
2007-01-09 15:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meetup.com
They have wonderful stay at home mom groups in just about every area that you can join. Sometimes advice over the internet just isn't the same as someone sitting beside you ... :)
2007-01-09 14:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered seeing a medical professional? Clinical depression can be treated. If normal every-day stuff makes you depressed, you have to consider the possibility that your brain or your body are not functioning properly.
2007-01-09 14:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you want to do. Get a babysitter for the kid or find one of those universities which offers free child care for students and do to school. You won't be happy if you're not doing what you want.
2007-01-09 14:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop me a note if you wish. Been there done that. And its good that you have recognized the symptoms of being depressed. There are things you CAN do still.
2007-01-09 14:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by jst_lv_me_alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋