Ive been reading all these posts about cheating on spouses and stuff.....doesnt anyone take their marriage and the vows they took seriousally...I sure do..marriage above all else...to love to honor..whats going on???
can someone explain it to me...how you can cheat on someone you vowed to love and honor...and what drives you to it?
2007-01-09 06:40:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most people do not realize that it is not someone elses job to make your happiness for you. These are very immature individuals who obviously are not happy with them selves. The others are just selfish. I think everyone should have to pass a test or take a class of some kind before entering into a marriage. There is not enough education about what you are entering into when you make that committment. Then again not too many people are interested in learning about things that are good for them and then practicing what they have learned. Like birth control Oh Well ????????
2007-01-09 06:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many enter marriage with not a clue as to what the vows really mean; any faith or belief in them; or understanding of the commitment of marriage and what it entails. We live in a world of instant gratification and if one doesn't get it [e.g., during the valleys of a relationship] no attention is given to just sitting and riding out the wave until the relationship rises to at least a balanced even keel.
People also don't realize that loving someone does not mean that temptation won't strike but it does mean you must walk away from the temptation as a credit and honor to the commitment made to the spouse.
There really is no such thing as the grass being greener...
2007-01-09 14:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know--I guess things werent really stable when those people went into marriage. I'm with you-marriage vows are for real, and people shouldn't get into marriage if they don't mean them, I mean isn't for better or worse a vow too, I know stuff gets hard, but this is where the for worse part comes in, people need to communicate with each other and work through the worse times with the one they pledged neverending love to, not run when the going gets tough!
2007-01-09 14:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by bridezilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're asking the wrong guy. My lady and I were married the day after our high school graduation. That was 45 years ago. What's truly wonderful about our relationship is that for 45 years, every day I've loved her just a little bit more that the day before. I can't wait until tomorrow. Life is good.
2007-01-09 15:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is over rated. I agree with him above....marriage cheats you. Sometimes spouses feel that the chase is over but it's not. Men in particular change when they get married, they stop buying all that lil junk that makes you all giddy. THEY STOP BUYING GIFTS. THEY STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS. They sit their fat tushes on the couch and want you to be their private servant. Sometimes men and woman just get fed the f*%k up and go commit adultery. It's not right but it gets them off for the moment then its back to the same ole couch potatoe who no longer wants to go out and have fun.
2007-01-09 14:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because many people dont think twice before getting married. is taht what they want?????? they never talk to eachother to find out if we married and if i cheated or what if i odn't love you anymore what if i don't wnat kids or i want kids but. sutff like that. I always do that with my wife and she love me for who i am and she and I know why we got married and we lost eachother once and after five long years and got back together and we truly in love and we made for each other... and i am glad i have her back in my life why??? we been married for 9 years and have 2 kids and 3rd due in march. so that what I take this marriage seriously.
2007-01-09 18:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought that a person is either a cheater or they aren't. I think everyone thinks about cheating because humans are sexual creatures at heart, but either you're capable of it or you aren't.
Me, for example, I know I'm not capable of it. I just couldn't do it. I've thought about it in the abstract after getting frustrated about something, but I couldn't do it.
2007-01-09 14:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People make bad decisions all the time, not just regarding marriage. It shouldn't come as a surprise.
2007-01-09 14:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My conscious is clear. I have never cheated on my wife.
I agree with you though. People just go do whatever these days.
2007-01-09 15:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage itself cheats you of your life.
2007-01-09 14:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋