My co-worker suspects I am pregnant, should I blow it off?

Question

My best friend works with me and she knows I am pregnant. One of our co-workers thinks I am pregnant. My co-worker sits next to me and told my friend that she thinks I am pregnant because she noticed I haven't been feeling well, that I am too tired to go for walks with her, and that I cancelled my Vegas trip because I didn't feel like going anymore.

My friend blew the whole thing off and the co-worker believes that my friend doesn't think I am pregnant, but what do I do if she says something to me?

I am 9 weeks pregnant and don't want my co-workers to know I am pregnant until I am 12 to 16 weeks along. This is my first pregnancy so I am waiting until I feel the baby is more safe.

How do I handle a co-worker with suspicions? Should I pretend to feel better?

Answer 1

Your co-worker should not be discussing your health issues with other coworkers, and if it gets bad, tell HR.

When I was pregnant, my mom sent me flowers - it was an understated bouquet. By mistake, the florist also sent a huge teddy bear and a balloon that said "Get Well". I think this was another delivery for a little kid who was sick. I was out of the office and a nosy coworker OPENED the card and announced to the entire office that I was pregnant (I had only found out 5 days earlier and not even told close friends). This coworker was nearly fired on the spot and actually was subsequently fired for this and other inappropriate behavior.

If you are friendly with this coworker, take her aside and tell her that you are having some medical issues that are personal and ask that she not spread rumors. Don't elaborate. She'll eventually know and you aren't lying.

Answer 2

The less noise you make about it, the faster she will quit inquiring and nosing around about your health, etc. It is really too bad that this person knows that much about your social life to begin with(ie:Vegas ) if you are not close enough to share your news with her this early. Snooping coworkers can be a bother, but even more so if you give them that power. Blow her off until you are ready, and then if she makes a fuss after you announce, simply put her in her place by saying it was not her business to know the news any sooner than you were ready to give it. You need to set her straight right from the start if she gives you lip, or else you may be in for 7 months of hell as she spies, pries, and spreads lies about any little illness you may have along the way. Work place gossipers suck!.. Best of luck to you and your little one. :)

Answer 3

I had this problem and found that keeping it a secret from everyone at work very stressful and i was a nervous wreck incase i said the wrong thing ( my boss had a miscarriage a few weeks prior also so i was dreading telling her) I decided just to come clean at 8 weeks pregnant and told my boss and i felt 100 times better and my colleagues were super supportive ( they'll make you constant cups of tea ) You can put yourself at more risk by stressing about it so maybe best just to tell your boss before this colleague does. It can be kept confidential until you want it to be announced but at least your boss will know and understand if your work is not up to scratch or your feeling unwell or not able to do certain duties. At the end of the day though its noones business so you could just tell her to mind her own!!!!

Answer 4

Wait until you see the rest of those people that didn't show up and see what they have to say for themselves. If they don't even bother to say sorry or explain why they couldn't come -- you should distance yourself from them. Just a word of adivce -- think twice about who you consider a "friend". It's a word that people throw around a lot, but I usually don't consider someone a friend unless I've known them for about a year and I can really trust them. I've been let down by certain people who I thought were my friends, but I've raised my standards of who I consider a true friend -- you should do the same.

Answer 5

I have worked in daycare centers since I graduated high school and I know about girly gossipping. Its totally up to you when you want to share the good news with co-workers. They may be just excited about the possibility that you are pregnant. Hang in there until you feel comfortable enough to tell people about your excpected bundle of joy. Good Luck!

Answer 6

They certainly don't have any RIGHT to this knowledge, so they should have the good sense not to pry. But since they don't, I would suggest giving them non-answers--answers that are non-commital and indecisive. If she asks you, say "Wouldn't that be nice?" or, "I'm not sure I'm ready for that right now." You're not saying that you are or you're not, but you are definitely waylaying any questions and giving the impression that you're not without lying and completely deceiving them.

If she says something like, "I think you're pregnant because you're so sick all the time," just say, "Well, it just feels like a stomach bug and I dont like jumping to conclusions. We'll see."

Don't bother pretending to feel better. Odds are that it'll be a paper-thin ploy she'll see right through. And why torture yourself any more than you have to? You already don't feel good. Adding the stress will just make it worse.

Answer 7

how u feel is something private.. especially wen it comes to yr baby
she should mind her own business and u shud be able to confide in ppl you trust.. u shudnt confide in ppl due to guilt
you are right im waiting til the 1st trimestre is over
i waited til the halfway of the 1st trimestre to tell friends i was pregnant (i cant hide my bump since around 16 weeks even tho its my 1st)

Answer 8

Don't feel bad about it. If you don't want to tell your co-workers, then don't. It's ultimately up to you. Let them think what they want.

Answer 9

Yeah, just blow it off until you are ready to tell everyone.

Answer 10

Just blow it off. Don't be pressured into telling her. People are so nosey.